Snoring

[randomuntrainedcuntowner]

My dp is french and still has a business in France. He spends half the week working in France and the spends most long weekends here with us.

I love him, but he works like a trogan when he's there, and then there's all the travelling, so invariably when he gets back he falls asleep on the sofa almost immediately, and then as soon as we go to bed he is on a deep sleep and snoring, literally like a pig. It is SO loud.

I spend the whole week missing him and wishing he was here, and then the whole time he is here I want to kill him!

But I can't blame him, because he works hard and is a good man.

Sorry just needed a rant! 😂

Snoring is a medical condition and can be resolved send him to the GP

He isn't registered with one here. He smokes. And when he is here it is the weekend so he invariably drinks. And he is in a deep sleep because he is so tired. I am a doctor so I understand the causes of snoring, but it doesn't stop it being annoying!

I know how you feel, my DH is currently busy at work and due to be on a trip away soon, I however have told him that if he carries on snoring like he is when he's back he will be heading off to the Dr as I can't live like it any more!

I am recording him now because he doesn't believe me!

But what good will that do?! He can't help it ffs! 😂

If I smother him with a pillow will that be seen as murder or manslaughter?! 😂

Get him to the GP! We were close to divorce it was that bad (not the snoring itself but my DH's lack of consideration for my Sleep and MH...he refused to do anything about it and I felt like I was losing my mind). He eventually went and had a sleep study, had mild apnea, got a CPAP machine and it fixed it. Machine was significantly quieter than the snoring and I slept through it no problem; occasionally I'd wake and realise he had taken the mask off when half asleep and started snoring again.

The big upside for him was that he felt loads less tired in the daytime, the apnoea was stopping him from sleeping properly.

A few months later we went low carb and he lost 2st. Forgot to bring the machine to a hotel stay one time and realised he had stopped snoring. Machine is gathering dust in the spare room currently.

Sorry, crossed posts OP. He needs to realise the awful effect it can have on a partner and then do something about it!

Can you sleep in separate bedrooms? We often do, which means I'm at least vaguely human during the day...

I think there's diminished responsibility there, like the woman who got off a murder charge on account of her PMS. The other night my DH was snoring so loudly he woke the baby up. You'd think it wouldn't be that hard but I'm talking about the baby I'm still pregnant with. She then kept me up for two hours kicking!! I almost killed him then but I'm just as bad with talking in my sleep.

No advice but lots of sympathy.

I've been married to a snorer for 3 decades. It gets worse instead of better. Get his throat lasered or something. I've tried recording... he reached 58 decibels at one point! I feel for you.

Mouth guard. A special one I think it's called a mandibular repositioner (sp?)

DH sleeps better with it - was away last night, woke himself up snoring so popped his guard in. Stops him bumping his teeth, grinding his teeth, moaning and puff, puff, puffing.

Dentists can shape to his teeth.

There'll be no sexy kissing but it's worth it.

He is only 35 and not exactly obese, but he does have a tummy on him so could probably do with losing a few lbs.

Like I said I am a gp, so I know that if he lost a bit of weight, gave up smoking, cut back on the booze then it COULD help, but to be fair his life is v stressful so these things are probably low onhis list of priorities right now. Plus I like the odd glass of wine and a ciggie too, and am probably about a stone overweight, so it would feel incredibly hypocritical for me to expect him to forgo all of life's pleasures just for the sake of my sleep!

We sleep in desperate rooms the majority of the time - different countries even! I wish when he was here we could have a lovely cuddly nights sleep together.

I have not recorded the decibels but it is LOUD.

Seperate

My DH and I sleep in seperate rooms because his snoring is so bad. I'm only 35 so it's a bit depressing!
He's had numerous potions form the GP but none of them have worked

My dad is a slum relatively fit and slim guy in his 50s and snores like a pig - my mum regularly de-camps to the spare room. No medical issues, he just snores. Some people just snore I think, and there is not much that you can do about it.

Anyway I am going to desperately try and get some sleep as I have work tomorrow! 😣😣😣

I am in bed upstairs and I know my DH has fallen asleep in front of the TV as his snores are carrying upstairs. DS (3) has now woken up coughing and crying, so no rest for me but a snivelling wiggling toddler in my bed is better than the snores that sound like a walrus!

Hope your DP stops soon OP

My dp snores, he can be heard in different rooms, earplugs don't work. He saw a sleep specialist who said he had some physical anomaly causing the snoring and was given a specially made mouth shield thing. He was told to wear it while awake for an hour or two each day until he got used to it. Did he do that? Did he hell! First day with them he put them in at night and fell asleep. He woke up an hour later (no snoring mind!) screaming and panicking that he couldnt move his jaw (as was designed to be the case) and never wore them again. He then left the shield somewhere the dog could get and eat it. I now feel perfectly within my rights now to wake him and make him roll over when he's keeping me awake with his snoring. If that requires a punch or kick then so be it. He knows he has something wrong and how to fix it but he refuses to. Bastard

My DH is also a snorer, was investigated for sleep apnea but didn't have it. They recommended a mouth guard which helped a tiny bit but then I had to put up with the disgusting dribbling and constant slurping noises. I make him wear breathe easy nasal strips and I wear silicone ear plugs made by 3M which definitely help. Giving him jaw thrust in the night was very effective but the selfish git thought I was unreasonable. Between his snoring, an 11week old baby and early rising 3yr old I don't get much sleep.

Dp snores like a warthog on a motorbike. He is also overweight, and a smoker (I know I'm not really selling him here, but he is lovely,)
He often complains of feeling tired during the day, so I think he is probably suffering from sleep apnoea - I've noticed it a few times. I wish he'd go to the gp about it, but he won't...probably because he knows they will tell him to lose weight and stop smoking!

Worst partner I ever had for snoring was French...maybe it's a thing

You can get an app which records the snoring throughout the night and shows a handy graph in the morning of when it happens, it's quite interesting to see the patterns. And if you want you can play back different bouts of snoring (as if hearing them the first time wasn't bad enough).

Don't really have any practical advice other than that, my ex tried all the gizmos and nothing helped.

I dumped him in the end. Mostly because he was a twat, not just because of the snoring.

DH snores and I despair. It's awful and I can feel myself getting so cross and resentful sometimes! He's very slim and very fit. I eventually snapped and he went to Dr and ended up seeing a private consultant - not cheap! There is little they can do it's not sleep apnea. They said he can either have a few injections in neck, not guaranteed to work and will only last 2 years, or an operation which is also not guaranteed to work or last long. That news was quite devastating to me. I feel your pain.

Ear plugs!! My DP brings me them home from work. And so he should - he snores like a buffalo!

My DH snores loudly too, and that awful huge piggy roaring snort after a period of no air intake. He has seen the Dr but doesn't want the machine thing. It's a bit of a family joke, and embarrassing when we go to friends or have people to stay because he is SO loud. If i can get to sleep before he comes to bed it's ok and it doesnt wake me, but sometimes I struggle to nod off because I can hear him downstairs on the sofa snoring. A friend has the same issue and has resorted to separate bedrooms, even on holiday so two rooms in a hotel. OP, you have my sympathy! We saw anti snore pillows in a shop and I suggested we buy him some, but he wasn't sure they would work so reckoned it was a waste of money. Apparently my idea of pushing it down over his face was not appreciated 😁

Wildbelle, I swear he snores in a french accent...