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defriended on Instagram

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WinnieWonders · 03/08/2017 20:12

Did not know where to post this...
I am slightly puzzled by a few friends I'm linked with on Instagram, who remain connected to my page (they want to still see my feed), but de-friend me from their own page, so I can't see their photos.

Anyone know why they may do this? It doesn't really bother me but I find it a bit weird.

Surely if they are annoyed/dislike me they would cut all links. It's easier to 'unfollow' people than it is to stop other people from looking at your page, so they've made a conscious effort to hide their stuff from me.

One is a friend I knew at school and we've kept in touch on social media. First time, I thought Id accidentally unfollowed her, so I re-linked and she accepted me. But a few weeks later she dropped me from her followers list again. But she continues to follow me(?). She has done well in her life, can't think of anything she'd not want me to see, not fell out, have not really commented on any of her pics, so I'm a bit confused.

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bimbobaggins · 03/08/2017 20:18

I have recently de friended/ unfollowed people on social media for the simple reason I don't have anything to do with them in real life. Plus I went through a difficult time recently and never heard a peep from people who were meant to be friends

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WinnieWonders · 03/08/2017 20:22

I can understand that, but why would you stop someone looking at your photo's, but still follow them yourself - and look at their pics? I think this situation is specific to Instagram. It's not like Facebook, where if you de-friend it cuts off the link and neither of you can view each others' page.

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Aquamarine1029 · 03/08/2017 20:42

Are you actually following them or just looking at their accounts? If they have made their account private and you weren't actually following them, you won't be able to see their posts.

Coconutspongexo · 03/08/2017 20:47

Did you ever send them a friend/follow request?

RhiWrites · 03/08/2017 21:09

That's not possible. You must have unfollowed her yourself. Maybe you pressed something by accident.

coincrack.com/buy-instagram-followers/delete-followers/

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WinnieWonders · 03/08/2017 21:11

Hi - I was actually following them. Their account is private. I was linked to them for quite a while then one day I noticed I was not able to see their account. I thought I'd accidentally unfollowed them (clicked the 'unfollow' button), so I sent them a request and they accepted me. A few weeks later I'd been dropped from their followers list again and could not see their pics.

I did not relaise that you could stop specific people from following you once you had accepted their 'following request'. So I googled it, and apparently you can. Fair enough if you don't want to be linked, but why do they want to follow my account then??

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Coconutspongexo · 03/08/2017 21:12

Yeah that's a new feature, I would unfollow them to be honest it might sound petty but if they don't want you looking at their posts why should they see yours?

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WinnieWonders · 03/08/2017 21:14

RhiWhites - I thought that also, but I found instructions on Google. I looked at my account and you can do it if you follow the instructions. Honestly - have not checked the link you've given, but I can see on my own account how I can stop drop specific people who are following me.

Another friend has done this to me - although I understand her reasoning. I know her as the girlfriend of my DH's friend. When they split up she dropped me from her followers list, i guess because she does not want me to see pics of her with new bloke, and pass info on
to her ex (not that I would of course!)

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Gah81 · 03/08/2017 21:14

I have my instagram account on private as it's very different for me to other social media accounts and I post slightly more frivolous things there than I do on Fbook/Twitter (use the latter professionally). I therefore let far fewer people follow me than I do elsewhere - though enjoy following others. E.g. a few colleagues tried to follow me on Instagram and I followed them but have not let them access my pictures in return.

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WinnieWonders · 03/08/2017 21:28

Thank you Gah81. I feel like I'm wracking my brains trying to work out why she may do this - more out of confusion than because i'm offended or anything.

She posts similar stuff to me - pics of her family on holiday, holding a glass of wine, food she's made, sewing projects. It's a bit showy-offy sometimes (she makes her life look very posh - but isn't Instagram a bit like that anyway?) There isn't anything that i don't think she'd like me to see.

Anyway, I guess I'll never know. I could de-link her from my account, but I don't want to offend and I'm not bothered if she sees my stuff.

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RhiWrites · 03/08/2017 22:43

Okay, cheers, Winnie. That's so odd though!

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