To not know how to flirt

[moormountain]

I went to an all girls school. I then met the man who would become my husband very young. He was quite a bit older than me. So i never really mixed with boys my own age or had boyfriends.

Now I wonder if it's possible just to not know how to flirt or get on with men

I went all to an all girls school, I am a natural flirt and always have been. I get it from DM.

I think it is a facet of personality that people may or may not have, in the same way that some people are blunt, some people are charming, some people are very in your face etc. It's a way of coming across across and to a certain extent it just happens. Although I can deliberately flirt with some people/ramp it up and it's not automatic with everyone. I try to be nice to everyone though!

Your inability to flirt has nothing to do with going to a single sex school.

You do know that flirting and getting on with men are NOT the same thing. Men can be spoken to about the same things as women. Flirting is a different kettle of fish. It's just subtle signals that say you feel a certain way about them.

Or in the case of DH almost dislocating my neck flicking my hair around because the boy can't take a hint. His mate told him I fancied him in the end Some men aren't good at being flirted with.

It's just a kind of playfulness, isn't it?

Do you need to flirt?
Just be friendly, smile a lot, listen and talk.

Flirting and getting on with men are not the same thing. However both require some social skills / confidence which it sounds like you may feel you're lacking in? If so, the way forward really is practice! Try striking up short, light hearted conversations when the opportunity presents itself, for practice. Smiling, eye contact and a sense of playfulness are the essential elements.