To feel bad about every bloody thing!

[Housequeen101]

I have anxiety and due to pregnancy am off my meds, although I'm pretty sure I'd feel the same on them.

Every conversation I have with people, when I get home I analyse the whole thing to see if I could have offended them or embarrassed myself. How do people not do this? I'd love to not give a fuck!

Just had my twaty neighbours knock about parking, they think they own the road, I was completely in the right and wasn't rude ( although I wasn't friendly either ) They have form for being ignorant bastards, you say hello as they pass on the street and they ignore you and stick their noses up, anyway, I feel sick now, You know that feeling in the out of your stomach. We didn't argue, couldn't even call it a heated discussion.

How do you let go of things once they've happened? How do you not let things faze you?

Thanks if you've read it all!!

The only thing I do os say well I cant change it now, some times it works, sometimes it doesn't. I still analyze things from years ago, I find it very hard to let go and every so often it all gets the better of me, its exhausting. Also I try to focus on what I have, my DD, my DH, my bump and my cat. They make me happy, I find that focuses my mind elsewhere.

It's so hard isn't it Marymoosmum! Feel like I have a daily battle with my head. I try the whole " If won't matter next week don't worry" but it doesn't work x

I have similar issues. I usually cry quite a bit. You just have to tell yourself it's fine. (Or get other people to tell you it's fine. By the way, it's fine.) And then try to distract yourself. Repeat with everything ad infinitum.

Practically, I find a nice drink (wine if it's a glass of wine night/ cordial and sparkling water if not!) and a good book or TV show does wonders. Preferably to be enjoyed in the bath.

Maybe it's a mum thing! Could murder a glass or too of vino but am 18 weeks pregnant, will stick to tea and a book, sounds like heaven! Thank you! Atleast I'm not alone x

Have you talked to your GP? I know that my DD was prescribed different meds that were ok to take in pregnancy.

Maybe it's a mum thing!

It's not a mum thing, it's a human thing. All of us go back to conversations we've had and think of all the witty and bitchy comebacks you could have come out with at the time, or feel regret over something you said to someone or anger at what someone said to you. Some people analyse more than others. I think my only advice I could give you is that when you're old and parting this world (sorry bit morbid but I have a point!) are you really going to be thinking about the time your neighbours knocked on your door about parking issues? No

I do this constantly. I feel lightheaded and get cold sweats/hot flushes replaying conversations and how stupid I must have sounded.

It helps to take a few deep breaths and tell myself they've probably forgotten it already!! I don't always believe that, but I try, and it helps a bit. And remembering I can't go back and change it now, so just move on.

Easier said than done I know!!

What's wrong with people thinking you are an idiot? Genuine question.

I'm sure people think I'm an idiot fairly often. Everyone does and says stupid stuff sometimes.

Imagine if everyone expected everyone else to behave perfectly all the time (according to just one person's definition of perfect)?