To be upset because of dh's comments?

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I have an infant with a suspected cow milk protein allergy whom I am breastfeeding. On the suggestion of a paedeatrician I am on dairy free diet to try and see if it improves her symptoms.
Now we all (me, the paedeatrician and dh) agree it is tricky to know if her symptoms improve because of my diet or just on their own. However in dhs eyes it means I shouldn't try the diet at all. As a result he keeps asking me every day if I am finished with the diet and am eating dairy again.
Yesterday was especially annoying. My older dd asked for ice cream. While opening the can dh asked me if I am still on "this diet". I said yes, you know I am. After commenting on how it is worthless he proceeded to serve ice cream to himself and dd. He offered no dessert alternative to me.
It is just annoying how disrespectful he is of my efforts to help our infant feel better. Not only does he offer no help with maintaining the diet, he questions its necessity every day. While baiting me with a bowl of ice cream.

Grrrr. I went dairy free whilst breastfeeding. Luckily DH is dairy intolerant anyway so it was no problem for him.

Just get yourself some booji booji chocolate icecream from Holland and Barretts and some bourbons (usually dairy free) to satisfy your sweet tooth!

I gave up dairy while breastfeeding both of mine and it made a massive difference. Swedish glacé is lovely - even my DH was prepared to join me with it.

"Why does it matter so much what I put in my mouth, what i eat or don't eat?"

I also though think that the alternative dessert thing was you being a bit tetchy, but if I had a prick like him robbing my environment of oxygen, I'd be a bit pissy too.

Swedish Glace icecream is AMAZING!!!

I like the Tescos Free From cornettos too!

I'm wondering if he's annoyed that you're not giving up breastfeeding? Either way he's being a total arse.

I don't see why it's any skin off his nose what diet you follow. Arse (him not you)

What a massive twat.

I kind of get similar from my DH sometimes, because I have to eat GF foods. He occasionally asks me if I'm ever going to "grow out of it" (not really!) and whinges about it - almost as though I'm doing it for attention or something (I'm really not, I find it embarrassing rather than anything else when I have to say no to food offers because of it).

I don't really understand why he takes it so personally because it mostly has no impact on his life at all, except when we're out and about and I can't find anything for lunch because it's all gluten based.

As I said though - it shows him, and your DH, up for being the tits they are that they worry more about how it affects them (barely at all) rather than the health effects it has.

Plus he should be the one saying "hey OP, i've found these nice dairy-free desserts for you while you're on your diet" in order to SUPPORT you while you feed his fucking child. You shouldn't need to get this from strangers on the internet. He sounds like a selfish and inconsiderate man-child and I'd tell him to arse off until he wants to start acting like a grown-up.

@ThumbWitches - that's a very disappointing attitude from your husband as well.

It belies that fact that for him his own pleasure & convenience come before your actual needs. Just lovely.

Oh that's so unsupportive and mean.

Get some nice sorbets.

Also when he asks if you're still on the diet ask if he's still on the being a twat kick. Or tell him you'll go back to dairy but he has to clean up all the baby puke.

Does the doctor think you should still be following the diet or not? If he/she does then it's a bit odd of your husband to be so negative about it. If the paed thinks it's not worth being on the diet then I can understand why your husband is a bit fed up with it.

I'm Intolerant to gluten and dairy, as is my lovely boyf. I can risk a little gluten now and then having that given my system a bit of a break and taking omeprazole, but I can feel it when I've eaten it.

Dairy is more consistent, my system doesn't like it.

I'm old, so its down to this I think, but I choose to eat what I need to, it's nobody's business other than mine.

Unsupportive Partners need to butt the fuck off tbh.

Thanks for the comments everyone.

The paed believes I should still be on a diet. it takes time for it to show improvement and it's been less than a month so far. It's just that if there is an improvement it's unclear whether it is because of the diet or other factors.
Dh is the one doing the cooking so it does inconvenience him in that sense. However he can have milk whenever he pleases, and he does.

And yes, breastfeeding in general annoys him. I think he might be the one who sensitized her to dairy by slipping her a bottle of formula when she was few days old. He is very keen to give her formula, so when will you stop breastfeeding is another question I used to get.

Is it because he considers your breasts "his"?

The more I learn about this guy the more I love him - not.

He's a numpty! What part of you giving up dairy for your child impacts on his life?
Alpro do a really nice hazelnut chocolate ice cream and I loved their custard until I realised that the soya made my pee and sweat smell really weird !

OMG, he gets worse! Why in the name of holy does breastfeeding "annoy" him?? What an idiot!

CAn you get the GP to stitch this idiot's mouth up?

You need serious support from GP/Health Visitor and whowever else you can muster.

Your H is at serious risk of undermining you to such an extent it could affect your mental health!

"I have to stay off dairy for the health of my baby while I am feeding her. I shall feed her as long as I can/want to/feel like it, when are you giving up being a prick?"

Is this your first/only baby?

How long have you been with this idiot?

I'm vegan and my omni DH is always kind enough to make sure I have an alternative option for pudding I've clearly got a good one!

OP he was being UR and a twat to boot.