To ask for your help?

[Distraughtdw]

Please advise. .
My poor poor dh has just told me for a few months now he has been having flash back type episodes of his dm abusing him as a child. The one same incident is all he can remember atm. How can I help him? Have suggested he speak to Dr to refer to someone who can seek out the truth. I haven't asked much as i don't want to be suggestive in my questions at all. .
He is the most lovely dh and has always had a strained relationship with her. . We have been nc for over 2 years now. .
She is moving away to a better job with dc. . .

Your husband needs to find a therapist as soon as possible. If he's having flashbacks, there's a lot of trauma and pain under the surface that he's been hiding and denying, even to himself. It's wonderful that you are so supportive, but you are not a therapist. He needs professional help. Poor guy.

He believes I believe him but can't ask too much or risk more damage - if that's possible. .
Maybe this explains why she was reluctant to be in our lives - she knew we have a strong relationship and maybe she worried he would confide in me. .
So glad I am not a foot away from her at this time I know. .

Get your husband help. It's a long and hard road (one I've just started) but he really needs to talk to a professional. You sound brilliant, my husband is amazing and just knowing you're there will be some comfort