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AIBU?

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AIBU to think that you don't do this in a relationship

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 01/08/2017 16:13

I'm in a fairly new relationship with a guy that is now going down hill he hasn't spoken to me much since the weekend and now I have just found out that he has been back on the dating site that we first met on for some reason he sent me a message on there even though there was no need for him to do that because we had been texting each other. He's trying to blame me for it by saying that I'm looking for excuses to end us over one mistake but it's not just one mistake he was sat next to me at the weekend and flirting with someone on Facebook and showing me the messages like he thought he was doing nothing wrong because to him it's just banter. So AIBU to think that you don't do that when your in a relationship and it's not my fault like he is trying to say it is.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 01/08/2017 16:14

Sack him off. Life's too short.

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 01/08/2017 16:15

I would block him and move on. He's showing you no respect. This isn't a relationship.

Ilovecoleslaw · 01/08/2017 16:15

Ltb

EastDulwichWife · 01/08/2017 16:15

You aren't being unreasonable to leave him.

You are being unreasonable to ask if this is acceptable. You know it isn't. Move on - it's only 7 weeks.

lionsleepstonight · 01/08/2017 16:15

Yep. Luckily for you he had shown his true colours incredibly early, before you've got too invested. Next!

Aeroflotgirl · 01/08/2017 16:23

Dump and move on! Neeeext

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 01/08/2017 16:23

Thank you everyone I didn't think I was in the wrong here. Believe me he is getting sacked off I have wasted too much of my time on losers like him. Am glad he did show his true colours this early on saves me a lot heartache further down the line. The fact that he's trying to blame me for it all and say that I'm looking for excuses to end it all just tells me that he knows he's fucked up.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 01/08/2017 16:24

He tested your boundaries. You have some.

IHopeYourCakeIsShit · 01/08/2017 16:25

I'm astonished you are actually giving this headspace to be honest.
Don't even engage any more, block and move on.

ReanimatedSGB · 01/08/2017 16:25

Definitely bin and move on. The early stages of dating are all about finding out whether you suit one another, so don't waste too much time fretting about this one.

m4rdybum · 01/08/2017 16:27

Bloody hell, get rid.

What a numpty.

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 01/08/2017 16:35

MrsTerryPratchet oh he found put at the weekend that I have boundaries and he crossed the line he can go and test someone else's boundaries I want nothing more to do with the waste of space.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit I won't be giving him anymore head space and he will be getting blocked and I will happily move on with my life. At least I know for sure that I'm not in the wrong here he is.

reanimatedSGB your right that is what the early stages of a relationship are suppose to be like but not this one he seemed to think that he could have the best of both worlds not on his life.

m4rdybum haha he's more than just a numpty. I will gladly be getting rid of this one I really don't need him and his shit excuses in my life.

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NannyRed · 01/08/2017 16:51

It sounds like he is trying hard to get you to do the dumping, grant him his wish and move on. Nobody deserves to be disrespected in that way, but he probably doesn't know how to tell you he wants to call it a day.

IHopeYourCakeIsShit · 01/08/2017 16:54

Definitely not in the wrong.
Now, get out there and meet someone who deserves you!

Havalina · 01/08/2017 16:58

Good for you, wish I had dumped last numpty first time I realised he was still on pof etc, would have saved me a lot of bother.

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 01/08/2017 17:29

NannyRed he is trying hard to get me to do dumping and laying the guilt trip on thick. He doesn't trust me for some reason but still thinks a relationship could work out not when any trust or respect I had for him is now long gone. I don't deserve to be disrespected in that way and if he didn't want to be with me then he should've said something instead of dragging it out for no reason.

IHopeYourCakeIsShit thank you am glad am not in the wrong here. I will giving him his marching orders and moving on and finding someone better who deserves me more than he does. Funny thing is he still can't tell me what he was even doing on there and now he wants a couple of days to decide what he wants like he's the victim in all of this. He can have his couple of days if he wants it but I've made my mind up already.

Havalina thank you. Oh am so sorry that you went through the same thing we are better off without them.

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