To wonder how people change as they age ...?

[ginorwine]

Trying to plan ahead for things . Quite a sociable person - friends v imp - few family .
Is persobality ' set ' as in if you are sociable
Gregarious you remain so or is there tendency to be more insular as older etc ? ..

X

I don't know about being social, but I'm getting more awesome 😎

Am intrigued about the reasons why you need to plan ahead!

I'm getting more couldn't - give - a - shit as I get older.

People can often change when their circumstances do, particularly when something awful happens to them.

Well I was never 'sociable' or extroverted. But I've found that as I've got older I get more comfortable in my ways, and am less likely to seek out new things. I feel I shouldn't be like that and should change - but then don't.

(I'm in my 30s 29 again. So probably still young to a lot of people.)

Dh and I have both got less sociable as we are older - which is fine, as all our friends have too.

We probably socialise about once or twice a month, plus birthdays, weddings and funerals but aren't round at each other's houses all the time.

Dmil on the other hand is in her seventies and a total social butterfly. She does have various groups of friends that she rotates but I reckon she goes out two or three times a week and if it wasn't for us going round weekends, she'd probably do more!

Safariboot yes - you're still young. Very young.

I think you can't really generalise, as it's probably more to do with circumstances. So a sociable person might become more insular if they have bad experiences with people, feel their good nature has been abused... or perhaps they might develop physical problems (e.g. hearing) that might make it tiring or more irritating for them to be among people. Similarly a person who was very self-conscious when young might find they feel more gregarious with the not-giving-a-shit quality that often comes with getting older.

So I don't think you can really plan ahead by assuming you're going to want more or less company. I don't think that hiding away in a remote cottage up a mountain would be hugely practical as time goes on much as I fantasise about it at my current stage of life , but that's a bit extreme anyway.

My parents are in their mid/late 80s and have an incredibly busy social life - still meeting up for university reunions those that haven't died, frequently inviting house guests or going to visit people; lots of trips to the theatre, still playing sports, volunteering, holidays abroad, not scared of new experiences, walking holidays etc (Dad went off round the country on various trains to meet up with different friends), Mum still likes a 'girls weekend away' etc etc.

They have a much busier and more varied social life than either my siblings or myself - totally depends on the sort of person you are (and good health and money obviously helps).

Margot
Because we are thinking of moving to a small village by the sea to semi retire and do conservation work or stay in our small vibrant city !!!