....to ask if he's a cocklodger?

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Saw this 'cocklodger' expression on here a while back. Just wondered if it sounds like my friend's partner is one...
My friend is so kind, caring and lovely. They have a DD age 5.
Her partner of 6 years;

1. Has his own business but takes random days off to 'chill' even though the business is struggling and they are skint.
2. Takes recreational drugs (coke mdma) when he goes out & was recently at a festival taking them around his and other peoples kids.
3. Is permanently grumpy and doesn't listen to advice from others re advertising for his business/ways to make more money.
4. Puts my friend down & tells his friends they've split up when they haven't.

They've talked about breaking up but he can't afford to move out (expensive part of the country!)- from what I see she also buys most of the food and does all the cooking too. I absolutely love my friend. I can see she's drinking more & affected by his selfish behaviour. Her only argument for not asking him to leave is 'he's a great dad' I've never seen this side to him. He is usually sitting around moaning when I'm there & not doing much parenting at all. I think they split everything 50/50 but am certain she pays more. Is he a cocklodger? (Or do cocklodgers contribute nothing?) I know some of you might think it's none of my business but my friend is suffering. Any advice or thoughts? Thank you.

Dont know abour cocklodger.

But he sounds like an abusive fuckwit

Yes he is, and a "great dad" wouldn't do drugs around their kids.

To be honest, as soon as I read 1) I thought "cocklodger".

She can do SO much better than him.

Workshy druggie that hates his partner except when she spreads her legs.

What does she get out of this?

Don't know if he is a cocklodger but he is definitely not a catch.
Number 2 would have me packing his bags instantly

Meh, I'd say selfish bastard. I'm not sure you should be posting threads about your friends relationship, does she know you're doing it? I'd find it pretty disloyal.

Thanks for your replies.
Bluntness I'm after some opinions & advice because I'm really worried about my friend.
Not sure why that's disloyal?

If he's paying 50/50 then the phrase doesn't apply, it's usually where one person pays nothing and expects the other to fund them.

I'd have kicked him out immediately for number two, taking drugs and good parent just don't go together ever.

My understanding of a cocklodger is someone who pays nothing and does nothing but expect everyone to do everything for them.

He isnt a cocklodger but he is a selfish bastard. She needs to leave him before she becomes an alcoholic and their child gets taken into care.

Do nt get so involved in your friends relationship, she choose him to be the father of her child

Thanks for all your replies.
Northernparent that's not the case, but also it's irrelevant here as his behaviour is current & she only discloses stuff to me & one other friend so want to help her.
Now I know what a cocklodger is :)

Ah, the old 'great dad' thing. Usually applied to arseholes.

cockacid I have to agree!
'But he's a great dad' has always been used when someone is either abusive or lazy in my experience