To distance myself from this friend?

[sundown45]

Background: very good friend went through a bad breakup. I helped her through it and she took some positive steps: got her own house, new job etc.

Then she met a new guy - she had known him for years but they met up again. I believe he took advantage of her vulnerability and became very controlling - financially and emotionally. Stopped her going out, meeting new men, became really possessive, wanted to move in/share finances/have a baby within a few weeks.

Friend saw sense and finished with him. Afterwards she really felt better and said a lot of bad things about the guy - she said she despised his company, was never attracted to him, felt suffocated, told friends and family some terrible stories.

In the past few weeks I've noticed that they are back together! Declaring their love all over social media.

I don't understand how you could slate a person so much then get back together with them? I'm also fed up of inevitably picking up the pieces.

WIBU to cut ties with this friend?

It's a difficult one. Cutting her off eill mean she has less support when things go tits up.

But i really believe that women are conditioned to be there for everyone, even to their own detriment. I dont think thats healthy, and dont agree with it.

You can only give what you can afford to givr. Emotionally, i mean.

I wouldn't blame you if you couldnt watch this again.

I would maybe go low contact if you think she is a good friend and deserves your support. If he goes back to his old ways, she may need you. However you need to protect your mental health too so if this is affecting you detrimentally, then it's fine to put yourself first and walk away.