DS goes to see ex EOW, has done for years, although ex has only been present for the past few (DS would stay with his gran, ex-MIL).
Ex is horrible. Chose drugs and drink over his son, skipped css paymenyd for years, emotionally and verbally abusive, passive aggressive, compulsive liar etc.
Since 2016 we agreed he could see DS EOW Fri night-Sun night and one night during the week. He has never asked to see DS during the week.
Him seeing DS on a Fri night is dependent on whether ex-MIL can take DS to a club Saturday morning, as ex cannot drive and won't use public transport (takes an hour) or taxis (20 minutes). However, ex only makes arrangements to see DS at silly o'clock on a Thursday night for the following day, often leaving with less than a few hours notice about changing plans on a Friday night/Saturday morning as ex-MIL cannot take DS to his club.
This year alone, out of 14 weekends, ex has not taken him on a Saturday morning 3 times and we've had to take him over after his club 4 times. So out of 14 weekends, ex and ex-mil have managed half of them.
The first time DS missed it ex took him to the park beforehand, in the rain, at around 10am when they needed to leave at 10.15ish. DS slipped in the mud, ruined his suit and hurt his back. What kind of a diddy takes a small child to a park, in the pissing rain, 15 minutes before they need to leave?
The second time ex and ex-mil booked something for over the time, something that could be done in the afternoon but they didn't want to 'drive about too much' to club then event so club was pushes aside.
Third time was yesterday. They arrived 20 minutes early, no one there yet and no one occupying the room. Ex asked if the club 'on at that time' (not 20 minutes later at the actual time) was on, receptionist said no, and so they left as ex "wanted to move on with his day". He was early, asked about the wrong club (he has no idea what DS club is called, or instructors, as he pays no attention), then decided to leave. He told me he was only letting me know as a courtesy (despite me paying for clubs).
I've had enough. Missing it 3 times for valid reasons would be okay. Not being able to take him once in a while is okay. However, ex has either missed it or not been able to take him, for half of all weekends he has had him this year.
Wibu to alter contact to after DS club on a Saturday to make sure he a) goes and b) I dont find out last minute that ex cannot take him? We don't have any court order to take into consideration.