To be annoyed with the "you've still got ages to go" comments

[OnNaturesCourse]

I 23+3 weeks pregnant with my first and I've recently had some problems with aches and pains (possible SPD) Whenever I speak to others, aside from DP, about it I tend to hear the "and your not even that big...yet!" or "just you wait, it'll get worse" kind of comments.

I probably used to be guilty of silly, silence filling comments like that but now I'm on the receiving side it's super grating on me.

Makes me feel like I'm failing at this pregnancy thing as "it's too early" for these problems, or I'm "so big!" already.

Does anyone else feel this, or have polite but direct responses? I'm going to be driven loopy over the next few months!

I'm really glad it's not just me being over sensitive (as I've been told I have) and there are others feeling the same way. I was beginning to think it was just me.

I got the "you're huge and still have AGES to go yet." comment yesterday which I just had to laugh off as it was my parents. I also got laughed at when they witnessed me putting my shoes on "oh, a little struggle there now, you'll never manage in a few weeks ahahaha" ... Yeah, very funny.

As for SPD I feel a bit of fraud. Some days are worse than others and there are definitely times where it can be worse/better. That along with the "but you're still only (x amount of weeks) along, it CAN'T be that bad" comments are making me think I am be over dramatic! 😑 oh and the best one "you'll never cope with birth if a bit of discomfort makes you like this"

@OnNaturesCourse I can completely sympathise. I'm 23+5 at the moment and have had loads of "oh just you wait ages to go" style comments, Well gee thanks for that - it's just what I want to hear if I'm having a bad day.
Somehow managed to get myself second trimester sickness, getting some pelvis pain too and NEED my snoogle pillow to sleep now. Feeling like an upturned turtle!
If one more person tells me I'm big/small/round/waddling etc I swear I will just set them on fire and toast marshmallows on the flames.
Have a very very unmumsnetty hug from a fellow waddling viper.

24 weeks here 👍🏻 gave up work at 22 weeks numerous comments about why so early ! Grrrr gets on my nerves !

It's ridiculous.

Don't people realise pregnancy isn't quite like it is portrayed in the movies etc. It's not all plain sailing and happy mummies.

Today I got told "sore already, oh you'll be one of those ones on crutches soon" Sorry but "one of those"?! Those what?! Those people who's pelvic bone is separating?! Gr.

I couldn't help noticing that a lot of the people telling me how easy it is being pregnant compared to having a newborn were men

Haha, funny that.

I've had a limited few comments from men but I find it's easier to roll my eyes at them x

I hate it! I am 30+6 with my second and have been having hip and back trouble from about 12 weeks. I work in a shop and we aren't supposed to sit down but because of my back and pregnancy I was allowed and the comments would really piss me off, to start with ok they didn't know but towards the end (before my maternity leave) it really got to me especially when one guy said 'come on its not an illness' I actually wanted to cry.

Yes. People are arseholes.

I was one of those on crutches!

It gets worse when you're waddling around at 42 weeks and everyone's a comedian.

'You're about to pop!' - Er, that's not how babies come out.

'Haven't you to had it yet?' - Apparently not.

'Sure it's not twins?' Quite sure.

'Did they get your due date wrong?' Fuck off, you're a stranger!'

SPD is awful OP.

Oh, and the comments continue into motherhood

the comments continue into motherhood

So true. Coping well with baby? Babies are easy, just wait til s/he hits the terrible twos! Coping so well with toddler you've decided to go for a second? One is a breeze, just wait til you have two. Etc etc.

50% of people: Gosh, you're huge.
Other 50%: What a neat tiny bump.

YANBU. It's very annoying! Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy.

😂 so basically I need to suck it up and get used to these comments then!

It's always worse coming from family. Strangers I can just about cope with lol x