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AIBU?

Sexist....

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user95 · 30/07/2017 00:43

Just found out the shop I work at is sexist, had my suspicions but this has been just been confirmed by a reputable source. The woman in me is telling me to leave and not support this way of life, I can do without the money, it would be a struggle at first but would get by.... WWYD & AIBU?

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MissBax · 30/07/2017 00:44

How is it sexist?

user95 · 30/07/2017 00:46

He doesn't hire women at all. A conversation with him recently declared that the reason is because men don't do a good enough job or mop as well

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user95 · 30/07/2017 00:47

*men not women....

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 00:48

That doesn't make sense. If (he thinks) men don't mop as well/do a good enough job, why would he not hire women?

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 00:48

Ahh. Had you not noticed you had no male colleagues?

MissBax · 30/07/2017 00:50

Hmmm that is strange, what kind of shop is it if you don't mind me asking? The only reason I do is if it's a woman's clothing shop I can understand (although still not okay), whereas if it's got nothing to do with either sex then it is unreasonable.
Having said that there is likely still more to the story - maybe he's had bad experiences with make employees (again still not okay),or been threatened etc?
I'd perhaps ask him abit more first before getting angry about it.

user95 · 30/07/2017 00:50

Yes I did but stupidly didn't realise the extent until someone who worked for him a while back confirmed my fears I know, stupid really!

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user95 · 30/07/2017 00:51

missbax a convenience store...

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MissBax · 30/07/2017 00:52

Did he actually say those things to you or to a colleague? Could it have been said in jest and taken the wrong way?

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 00:53

How many staff do you have?

FlandersRocks · 30/07/2017 00:56

I can't say my principles would go that far as to make me leave a job I needed in that instance tbh.

A friend of mine only employs men or women late 40s +. Reason being (which she's told me but isn't stupid enough to admit openly) is to avoid maternity leave.

Whilst technically I know that's wrong and I should be up in arms, I can't bring myself to condemn her. She runs a small business and I saw first hand the impact it had on her when 3 of her 8 staff went on maternity leave in the space of a year. It nearly ended her, the business just couldn't bear the cost in time and money of recruiting and training temporary replacements. She nearly went under and managed to save it by the skin of her teeth by working 80 hour weeks to cover the shortfall. She understandably doesn't want it to happen again for which I can't blame her.

user95 · 30/07/2017 01:01

Missbax yes I was directly told that...

Whattodo around 9 staff for a small convenience store

Flander completely understand that logic however very different from my boss's reasons...

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 01:07

shrugs I don't see a problem. I used to work in a team of six women in my last retail job and we had such fun. A guy would have ruined that dynamic.

I now work with about 40 others with a mixture of men and women and it works because there's more of us.

balsamicbarbara · 30/07/2017 02:55

YABU. One can't be "sexist" against men as they're the privileged group.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 02:56

YABU. One can't be "sexist" against men as they're the privileged group.

Bullshit.

You can be sexist against men, just as you can be racist against whites people.

user95 · 31/07/2017 11:11

I think the point is being missed here balsamic. You absolutely can be sexist to men also but that's not only what is happening here, there is also sexism of women going on here too. We are employed at my workplace because we 'mop and clean better'

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