Wine?

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I love a glass or two of red wine of an evening, I absolutely can go without and have on many occasions and I also make sure to have one or two alcohol free days off per week. I'm trying to cut down due to calories & health but it really is my guilty pleasure! I, for the most part, eat healthy, am active nearly every day, don't smoke or take drugs and work my bloomin' butt off, but AIBU? According to UK guidelines I am but in the normal, busy world?

It's middle aged, middle class women that are supposed to be in danger of over drinking like this. I can see that is true from the habits of women I know me included

My aim is to have three alcohol free nights but sometimes succumb to temptation It probably is a bit too much but better than the binge drinking of when I was younger.

Sorry, my phone has just caught up, I see that not everyone agrees that's a good thing!

I wouldn't worry. Many of my colleagues do this. I tend to have three glasses two or three nights a week as my job and kids can be stressful and it's a nice way to wind down. You won't have the same strains on your life forever and your preferences may change in the future. The fact that you are considering it sounds sensible, the people who don't ever think about it are more of a worry.

I work FT have two young children. I completely stopped with both pregnancies so I know I can do it. I've started researching moderation management today. I feel I need some help to get it under control. I don't want to go to the GP because I don't want it on my notes for fear they pass it on to social services or something!!

I think it is all relative.
Personally, I think it's a lot to drink, but then I only tend to drink if I am out, of have people round. I will occasionally have a glass at home on my own, but this is a once every 3 months type thing.

I'm not sure replies on MN are going to be very representative of the population though . There is quite a culture on these threads of people being quite rude about people that don't drink much, and it sometimes turns a bit competitive about how much people do.

Something else that is crucial is what is "a glass" ?
When I was young, free and single, "a glass" was 125ml (ok, 4oz in those days) of wine which was about 8 or 9%. Now, a 'small' glass in a pub tends to be 175ml and is commonly served in 250ml measures - which is what our eyes are now used to when we pour ourselves "a glass" at home. Wine now is often 14% too. All that makes a difference to what you are drinking.

Did you know that safe drinking limits are set by a panel that is made up of mainly pro temperance organisations?

I don't drink on school nights - so only a Friday and Saturday. I don't drink every weekend and not always both nights.

Thanks all. I have decided to give not drinking in the week a real.good go and if I can't achieve it, to get some professional help.

Lucy Congratulations!

The fact that you think you might need professional help is quite worrying and indicates you really do need to cut down significantly.

I drink regularly and don't want to cut down particularly but I know I could easily do it if I wanted to.

Well I was going to respond to the title of this thread with just a 'yes please' so obviously I don't think YABU!!

Currently 6 months pregnant and had the worst month at work... I could murder a glass

I don't know many people who drink less than you op! Most of the people I know (I'd say friends but I don't have many these days) drink far more than that and I've never considered the majority to have problems, they just enjoy drinking. ages between 24-40, if that's relevant.

The fact that some people are worried for you over drinking one or two glasses of wine most nights made laugh! In the sense that we obviously live in very different worlds!

Incidentally, I used to drink a lot socially but rarely at home. I don't really drink since dc.

Good luck those going without! I have been pondering my drinking habits too, it's not just how much you drink but your relationship with it and to consider whether you are regularly using it as a crutch, which could point to dependency.

Drinking socially might seem better but depends on your friends - if they're heavy drinkers I suppose that normalises it. You need pleasure in life though, so find a balance that works for you.