DH giving DC food choices

[LovelyBath77]

I usually just make them both a range in what they like, but he always asks them what they want for dinner. It irritates me. So I get something like DC1 wants a baked potato and DC2 wants noodles...end up making lots of different meals. which take different times.

And before I get 'well get him to cook it then' he does. But it makes me feel guilty I don't ask them.

Is it normal to ask them what they want, or just give them stuff?

We generally just feed them but occasionally they are asked together what they want i.e. One picks the carbs for both the other picks the protein.

I give my two options so they choose but if a limited number of things and I normally try to get them to agree on one option

They get to choose from what I've made iyswim. So if it's jacket potatoes then they can choose tuna/cheese etc; if it's fajitas, they put their own chicken/salad/cheese in. If they really don't like what I've made they can have a bowl of cereal.

They won't hate you /prefer dh because you do meals differently!!
Though I do know of some dc (not relatives) who complained their df only made beans and sausages on toast( if dm want around) - one adamant it was minus the sausages too!! Poor bairns!!

Different people do things differently. As long as he is not expecting you to make 3 different meals, then it's his choice.

I think it's good for kids to see that different people have different approaches to life. I think your DH is making more work for himself - but if he's happy that's his choice. When it's your turn to cooI, you can do it your way.

If he's happy doing it that way then let him! YABU.

No way would I give kids a choice. Eat what you're given, is my motto.

She gets to choose Friday night dinner, and picks her own if we're out. Other than that it's eat what you're given and I only ever make one meal.

I ask mine most days as does DH depending on who's cooking.

He was bought up on set meals due to rigourous meal planning and hated the lack of choice and same few meals week in week out.

It's nice to choose on the day as tastes change depending on the weather, kind of day it's been etc.

If it's when he is cooking then he can do it how works for him.

Personally I am all for giving a limited range of choices - I wouldn't like to be told exactly what I am eating every meal a bit of choice is always nice when possible.

we take it in turns to chose, so everyone gets a chance choosing but we all have the same meal (the DC and I aren't fussy eaters, DH is but we've got to a point where he either eats what I cook or does his own as there's only about 3 meals he actually likes) Occasionally I will do separate meals but its not a regular thing, it's generally when I fancy something I know none of them like.

When DH cooks he chooses.

It does matter what he asks but I'm cooking dinner! i get fed up with it. Fair enough if the asks them when he's cooking but now when I am.

When I meal plan I get my boys helping to pick the next weeks meals, usually they pick a meal each.

I often ask the dc what they fancy.
If they can't agree, they do Rock, Paper, Scissors and the winner gets their choice, with the other choice the next night. I don't cook more than one meal a day though!

RPS solves a lot of disputes in our house

Ok, I was meaning he usually cooks it when he asks, for example at weekends, however I sometimes get told their choices in advance which is annoying. Sorry not very clear. I should also mention have a MH condition so get quite anxious and small stressy things I do find more challenging than most!

It's ok to give them a choice if they can agree on the same thing, but not at all ok if they're allowed to choose different things - that would drive me mad!

If it's bung in the oven stuff I offer a choice because they like/don't like certain things and it makes no difference to me. If it's a meal from scratch I try and tailor it to suit everyone but only make the one meal. 4 year old not included as he has SN and will only eat certain things.

You get told their choices
Errrr no.
I'm going to get flamed for this but they're children - you're the one doing the cooking so they'll eat what you make! Quite frankly, DH and I work FT - we don't have the time to be faffing about making 2 lots of food. You're not making horrible awful foods that they hate, and I assume you have a degree of flexibility that at times you'll say 'sod it let's get in a takeaway/go to Tesco on the way home and grab a pizza' but for the most part you're the one cooking so you make the choices.
I do have times when a child doesn't want what I've cooked (I insist they try everything - if they don't like it, fine, but they must try it) and I'll make something else, but that happens 2-3 times a year, if that. Have confidence that what you're providing for your children is absolutely fine. If you're trying to decide between 2 dinners you're going to make anyway then sure, ask them:
'Do you want macaroni cheese or casserole?'
That way they still get a choice but it's not going to end up with you making 2 meals.
Sounds like you need to get your confidence up OP - you're a good mum, just believe it

I do give my DC choices but only things like a choice between white bread or brown, which topping on your jacket potato, broccoli or cauliflower etc

They think they have had some choice and feel they have some maturity by making their own decisions I know theyre getting exactly the same as everyone else so the same amount of work to cook.

I'd try telling him to get them to agree - choice is all well and good, so say "You can either have jacket potato and beans or you can have pasta bake tonight. Which one would you both like?"

They still get a choice, but only one meal is required.