AIBU?
Wedding present question
GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 28/07/2017 20:08
I have been invited to a friend's wedding later this year. As happens quite often now, they originally said they didn't want any presents as have been living together for some years now (and already have a DC).
But this has now changed, with them asking for contributions towards their honeymoon.
I have already bought them a gift (just something I saw a while ago which I thought would suit them/make them smile). And it was over 28 days ago so can't return it, and can't think of anyone else to give it to (it was bought specifically with them in mind).
So WIBU to just give them the gift and not a cash present? I think the former would be fine, just don't want to cause offence! So just wanted opinions.
Moanyoldcow · 28/07/2017 20:14
Why do people think it's grabby? I had a nice low key wedding, provided 3 courses, evening food, all booze all night. I didn't expect gifts but people buy them and most people I know would much rather give something wanted.
I think this is generational too. I was at a wedding a couple of months ago and they'd set up a website to contribute to the honeymoon. Guests were raving about how convenient it was.
thepatchworkcat · 28/07/2017 21:17
People get so cross on here about couples asking for money as wedding gifts! I don't see how it's any more grabby or rude than the old wedding list of random household items. Literally every wedding I've been to as an adult, the couple have asked for money. And it doesn't mean you HAVE to but it's just that most guests like to know what to get! We were given lots of money/vouchers and then a couple of actual gifts too which were really nice. One relative insisted on buying us an appliance we didn't really want, that didn't last more than a few months. Not sure why that's better than giving us money but their choice 
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Give the gift - they won't mind! The money suggestion is just that, it's not compulsory!
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