AIBU?
Aibu about upcoming holiday ?
organixeveryday · 28/07/2017 16:56
On Sunday I go on holiday (child free) with DP, for 8 days to far away , hot and sunny climes.
Now I would be all excited about this since I haven't ever been anywhere further than the tip of Africa and a few European countries (dp has travelled extensively and comes from Oz) but I can't help but feel depressed about all the stuff at home which I get a temporary physical break from but no mental offloading.
My mum was told a week ago that her tumour has regrown and she has 6 months maximum to live so this week has been frantic childcare searching for DS and hospice visiting.
DS (almost 2) has been really playing up , probably as a consequence of being left with numerous friends (almost strangers to him anyway) so I can get to appointments etc.
The usual worries about pension plans and house buying due to being a sahm.
How DS will be with ex (holiday contact time.
Being pregnant and having all of the above to contend with!
Someone please cheer me up!
PumpkinPie2016 · 28/07/2017 17:02
Firstly I'm so sorry to hear about your mum - how awful for you 
I'm not supposed you feel as you do.
I'm sure your DS will be fine with his dad and although he probably is playing up because of everything this week rest assured that he will remember none of it! Can you talk to your ex and explain what's happened so that he is prepared and can perhaps organise a special treat for your son?
Personally, for now, I would put on hold thinking about pension plans/houses - just focus on you and your family.
Be extra kind to yourself - it's an extremely difficult thing you are going through, sending you strength and 
organixeveryday · 28/07/2017 17:10
You're right. I was sitting in the oncology unit on Tuesday waiting for her to be cannulated for her temporary chemo and was just thinking hmm In a week I'll be on a beach but really will I feel guilty.
Agh. Meant to be getting engaged out there and don't even feel excited about that , just grumpy because I've organised every bit of it!
Sirzy · 28/07/2017 17:14
Do you think your Mum would want you to feel guilty or do you think she would want you to go and enjoy yourself? Your holiday adventures will give you something fun and different to talk about when you are back too as often hospital conversations can get pretty boring when the normal topics have been exhausted!
organixeveryday · 28/07/2017 17:15
She wants me to go of course , but I can't help but feel guilty.
I haven't really said about where I'm going as it's quite an amazing location and I don't want people to start judging me for going there (sahm so how can you afford etc , leaving your mum behind)
SuperDandy · 28/07/2017 17:27
People who judge are really just giving you an easy way to filter them out as not being your friends. They are aresholes, who know no better, and hey, lucky them, but they don't get to make you feel bad about making the right choices.
I've been in similar shoes. Go, relax, refresh, trust your ex with ds. Come back lighter, rested and ready to go again. It's going to be a tough ride.
5foot5 · 28/07/2017 23:24
This is probably the best time to go away.
You are not needed right now. But you will be in a while. So it is positively your duty to relax, recharge and have a good time so that you are in a better place to cope with what lies ahead.
Your DS will be fine pensions will wait.
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