Since January he's been working ridiculous hours to finish a project that was brought forward at work. He's clocking up around 70hrs now as it's crept up and up. The only night he takes off is so he can go to his martial arts thing. He goes in at 6.30amuntil 4.30pm and then as soon as we've had tea he's wfh until 11pm. He then works almost solidly over the weekend.
I've asked him to not work tonight, or maybe only do 6-8, so we can have our 'date night'. This has always been a tradition, wine, a film or some crap telly, bit of karaoke maybe. The last few months he's worked until 9pm on a Friday and then we've spent some time together, but this week he wants to work until at least 11pm as it's apparently all gone to shit.
I've told him not to. They can't get blood out of a stone and there's no way they can force him to work. It is actually totally optional but as he is the lead on the team he feels he'll get the heat if the project isn't delivered. I've said it's the company's own stupid fault for bringing the launch date forward by eighteen months (seriously).
He's very literal (software engineer) so when the bosses say necks are on the block he panics. In reality he is one of their cornerstones and they'd be fucked without him, it takes three years at least to become competent in his firm and there's no way they'd sack people for this, particularly with the amount of overtime he and his colleagues are doing.
Selfishly, I miss him. And I'm desperate for some adult company and shagging after a heavy start to the holidays with the kids.
How can I get this through to him without sounding like a whiny brat? Oh, also, he's actually not working tomorrow night as he has a gig. So I feel like he's ok to prioritise that but not me. Or WIBU to fuck off out instead and leave him to sort bedtime (easy in the hols as the little one likes to sleep in with teenage DD so really he just has to check they're actually asleep by about ten). Although that's not even really the point, it's him I want to spend time with.
Aibu about this? I genuinely can't tell if I'm just being selfish. He says if he doesn't do all this overtime it will just come back on him so I need to leave him to it. I'm desperately worried about his quality of life at the moment and think he needs at least one evening off (I think since January he's had ONE weekend when he hasn't worked and that was because we went away. And I can't remember the last time he didn't work either during the day or the evening for a whole day).
Urgh. Sorry for length, it turned into a bit of a brain dump. I'm relying on you lot to make sense of this in my head.