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Original poster

you dont start a hen weekend sex quiz/ drinking game on the fucking train!

52 replies

bigmouthstrikesagain · 28/07/2017 12:13

Ffs on a busy train to Cardiff. With dds age 8 and 11. Half way through our journeys a foul mouthed group of hens packing beers and shots, got on our carriage and are next to us. Complete with blow up doll. Are doing a sex quiz and downing shots. Brilliant Angry

I have dd2 looking distressed. I want to stomp on the fucking blow up doll and shove their shot glasses up their arses. Sorry.

I have been on hen weekends, but I have always been able to reign in the obscenity until we were in the pub/ hotel/ nightclub. Not on a train surrounded by kids and non hen party folks. It is just rude.

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AlessandroVasectomi · 28/07/2017 13:34

This happened to me a few years back. I was travelling home from work in London on a Friday night at about 8 pm. All I wanted after a week's work was to read my Evening Standard in peace. Instead I had to put up with these ignorant women and their foul language - at high volume - for the 40 minutes of my journey home. What got me was their absolute insensitivity to their fellow passsengers, many of whom were like me and just wanted to get home and switch off. But no, these women were out to enjoy themselves and they were going to do so regardless of the effect on others. The guard came through to our carriage checking tickets and he wasn't going to take them on, so he just took all the ribbing with a smile and moved on. The rest of the passengers also forced smiles and put up with it.

RaeSkywalker · 28/07/2017 13:35

Urgh, awful. I went on the worst hen weekend ever a few years ago- the train journeys there and back were very similar. I knew nobody except the bride and was mortified.

I'd honestly see if I could find the guard I think.

19lottie82 · 28/07/2017 13:35

No...... don't pull the cord!!! FFS

OP go and have a quiet word with them and ask them to tone it down a bit. If they respond like socks, go find a guard.

MyheartbelongstoG · 28/07/2017 13:39

I was part of a hen party that behaved like that once and I took myself off to a different carriage I was so embarrassed.

It was the only one I've ever been to as I hate them and think they're so tacky. Didn't even have one myself when I was getting married.

WorraLiberty · 28/07/2017 13:43

Do not do that, it isn't a servant's bell.

Exactly!

Either have a quiet word or switch carriages.

Floggingmolly · 28/07/2017 13:48

Sorry Blush. This used to be the accepted way of sorting trouble from drunks, etc on the local train network in Dublin.
The driver would radio ahead to the next station and the police would be waiting on the platform to deal with the culprits. Regular Saturday night shenanigans.
Obviously a cross country train is a slightly different prospect...

specialsubject · 28/07/2017 13:52

Find the guard or train manager ( not by pulling the emergency cord!) With luck he will chuck them off at the next station.

RideOn · 28/07/2017 13:52

I have only complained 3 times about language infront of children. I would said I "spoke to them" rather than "confronted them"

More like (speaking to one person directly) "Hi, sorry to interupt you, its just I am on this journey with my daughters on a trip. I am not sure you noticed but there are children in this carriage?" "would it be ok to tone it down?" if they are rude or dont then speak to the guard.

  1. group of youths in park swearing, they apologised
  2. man swearing to friend, rolled his eyes but did stop
  3. women on a bus, they apologised and seemed a bit mortified - was v awkward for rest of journey

There are times I have let it go.

YANBU but I think if everyone pretends it is normal to have a sex doll and sex quiz on a train, when will they learn?

Beeziekn33ze · 28/07/2017 13:54

Molly - isn't the cord to stop the train?!

I shared a carriage from the Midlands to Euston with an overexcited, loud, and thirsty, mixed group of 8-10 youngish people. I soon heard that they were from the Fire Service in Shropshire, bound for The London Palladium. They were practising what they'd say to Bradley Walsh on the show but also describing at full volume various drunken and sexual mishaps and pranks. Lavatory accidents they had experienced after drinking were also retold in detail.
I'm sure they all do a great job but the rest of the carriage heard far too much personal information!

Beeziekn33ze · 28/07/2017 13:59

Boysof-melody. - X post re emergency cord - you put it so well!

VladmirsPoutine · 28/07/2017 14:41

This sort of thing gets on my tits. That said, I also get irritable when I can hear music through another passenger's headphones but this is clearly not that. This is unreasonable.

Find train guard and complain.

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bigmouthstrikesagain · 28/07/2017 14:42

We opted for quiet dignity and headphones + pre downloaded Netflix programme on tablet for dd, then noisy game of noughts and crosses. The silly bints (all old enough to know better) thought people should put up with their juvenile crap cos hen weekend innit! Dickheads. They moved to let me through when we were disembarking. All "we are just like you, normally" "just letting our hair down" as they had probably worked out from my attempts to murder them with my eyes that I was unimpressed. But no they are dickheads I am not. We took time out in Cardiff for crepes and on our way back to station just spotted the group and their blow up doll at the nearest pub to station, sad sight. I am over my righteous anger now.Grin

Thank you all for sympathy and suggestions I didn't want to rain hell on them in front of the girls but venting really helped!

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Hissy · 28/07/2017 14:58

You opted for avoiding the issue entirely? Ok then.

Why could you not have used the text number? entirely appropriate.

bint is extremely offensive as a term for women btw.

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bigmouthstrikesagain · 28/07/2017 15:10

They were extremely offensive women, but too juiced on Budweiser and shots to be reasonable, they were in a group of about 15 as well with all the bravado that group dynamic provides. Once the quiz was done the offensive language reduced though shrieks of laughter etc cont.

Dodgy WiFi reception meant I didn't get to read most of your responses till I was off the train.

I appear to have annoyed you hissy but that can be your problem as I don't need any more on a long journey. This latest train is pretty uneventful so far. So that's nice.

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BoysofMelody · 28/07/2017 15:30

They were extremely offensive women, but too juiced on Budweiser and shots to be reasonable

They were being unreasonable to drink that yankee pisswater for a start.

HookandSwan · 28/07/2017 15:32

Are they the same Yobish hens who got kicked off the plane going to Malaga

spaday · 28/07/2017 15:58

I GLARED at an elderly lady in Waitrose on Tuesday as she was pissed off being in the queue.

She was tutting and muttered FFS loud enough for my 9yo to hear. It did silence her though Smile

Nowhere is safe Sad

Original poster
bigmouthstrikesagain · 28/07/2017 17:05

Indeed boys my lovely sister has promised me some 12yo single malt whisky tonight - that will do me x

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ManyManyShoes · 28/07/2017 17:26

Record them and shame them on YouTube! It is what these cretins deserve!

BoysofMelody · 28/07/2017 19:51

Well done big a proper drink!

SuperPug · 28/07/2017 19:57

Their behaviour is like a massive "FU" to everyone else in the carriage. Hope you find the guard and they stop/ get booted off.
Also, sounds classy Hmm

FlyingFox95 · 28/07/2017 21:15

Why didn't you just move? I had a mum come up to me a couple of months back on the plane when my DP and I were flying abroad (usual, stocked up on those mini wine bottles ahh Wine ), chatting but nothing out of the ordinary. She came over and asked us to put her alcohol away because it was setting a bad example for her little ones.

The answer was no, of course.

britbat23 · 28/07/2017 21:18

You do if you're pond scum

AwaywiththePixies27 · 28/07/2017 21:58

Why didn't you just move?

FlyingFox The OP said the train was packed so couldn't just move.

BoffinMum · 30/07/2017 11:25

I normally just go up to people and say the thing about there being kids nearby, any chance of toning things down a bit, and they usually do even if they mutter a bit as well.