Sooo I have been with my husband for over 13 years, married for 3(I think!).
I wouldn't say DH is the usual stereo typical mans man in the sense that he goes out to work then heads straight to the pub not to be seen until the wee hours BUT he does nothing other than go to work, come home, eat his tea, try it on with me and then sleep.
He doesn't sort his own finances because 'he can't...he's not very good at it'(his words not mine) so his wages have been going into my account for years. Hes only had a proper bank account since last year because I went online and opened him one but when I told him to change it with work he said no because he doesn't want to. Yet he plays the woe is me card frequently because he never gets anything even though he works 
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He spends most of his time shouting at the kids about their rooms being untidy or they have left their pj's from that morning on the floor but venture around his side of the bed and there is a massive pile of dirty washing which has accumulated over the week which he seems to save until the weekend when I have an empty basket then fills it up and walks away. Tools on the kitchen worktops from 3 weeks ago etc etc.
The amount of arguments we have had over the years because he never cleans up after himself are ridiculous but he always manages to turn it back on me because I didn't 'ask him nicely' to do it or I'm never happy when he does?. I seriously don't believe I have to do cart wheels because he has managed to do what most others have been doing for years, is this wrong???
Just to add...I am a SAHM but I have worked 60 hour weeks and he has never been any different, he just worked HARDER than me at that time.
He needs to spend time on his hobbies at a weekend because he needs to socialise, I have days when I can't even string together a bloody sentence together because I have nobody to speak to.
I think the eye opener came the other day following a chat I had with my 12 year old son after he complained that he had to make himself a sandwich. When I asked him how he would manage when he was older and had a place of his own he casually told me 'I'll be OK, my wife will do it'. 
AIBU to think sod this shit, get a job, do the minimum required and let him fend for himself in all ways possible even though there is a huge possibility that my Dc will just end up doing most of what I do instead?