The title is what mum said to me as I was coming out of a meeting with the Nursery about my 2 year old DD.
DD has a Global Developmental Delay, Speech Delay, Hip Dysplasia in both hips, a squint in her eye, a hearing problem and is also suspected asthmatic - GP has referred her this week to the Respiratory Team at the local hospital.
And on the surface DD doesn't look like she has any issues. If you saw her as she is right now, watching Ben and Holly stroking her doll you'd think she was just a normal 2 year old.
At Nursery we have no behaviour issues. They've had to use their discipline policy on her once in 10 months when she hit another child when the child snatched a toy off her. Otherwise she behaves at Nursery, eats all her food, and plays happily. They've recently removed her permanent 1-1 as they found there's only certain times of the day she needs the extra help so instead of having 1-1 all day everyday, she has 1-1 when the other children do "physical" she does communication help, and she also has 1-1 when she's in the garden as they have a big climbing frame which she could hurt her hips on so she has a 1-1 who follows her around and makes sure she's ok. This has been good for Nursery as she has 1 1-1 for communication but can have whoevers free whenever she's in the garden.
The main worry is her behaviour. While most people would be pleased their child is behaving at Nursery, the Nursery has said that most children even NT children who are well behaved and have a secure homelife, even those children would be expected to be disciplined by them sometimes. They consider anything up to once a week is usual for NT children, so for them to only have to have disciplined DD once in 10 months is a huge worry. She doesn't often misbehave at home either, we've had 2 proper tantrums since she was 18 months old and maybe half a dozen minor ones. I'm honestly not boasting here, I thought it'd be tantrums galore by now particularly with a speech delay.
I'm open about DDs problems when people ask. Although she's not obviously SN, if you know DD and even watched her awhile the differences between her and other 2 year olds. So when the parent asked "Peppa is everything ok with MiniPig, I can tell she's not quite like the other children, please don't take that the wrong way she's lovely" so I said she has a few problems and extra needs, and the parent replies the title. The parents little girl is also lovely, and I've seen her tantrum coming out of nursery because she doesn't want to leave aka she's normal she's a lovely little girl and she does play with my DD so doesn't surprise me that the parent knows her.
I know IABU to be upset by her comment, I should be flattered that other parents think she's brilliant, but I just want to cry, I just wish I wasn't having to have yet another meeting or yet another appointment for MiniPig. Of course I am happy that she looks like another toddler, but then sometimes I wish people could tell by looking at her.
IABU I know I am