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When do birthdays stop counting lol

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1969angep · 27/07/2017 12:15

So it's my birthday and at 40 something (cough cough) I don't expect masses of presents or surprises. AIBU to hope that a little extra thought might not go amiss. Came downstairs to find the kitchen full of crockery, could my fiancé not have finished loading the dishwasher as a birthday treat (he had LOADS of time to do it this morning as didn't leave until later). I daresay the day will probably even involve ironing amongst general running around after DS. Sigh. When did birthdays stop counting for everyone else? Tell me I'm not alone lol.

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JeReviens · 27/07/2017 12:19

Happy Birthday.
I get treated like a Queen on my birthday. It is not worth their while to do otherwise Grin


hellomarshmallow · 27/07/2017 12:20

Happy birthday Flowers
Very much depends on the 'culture' and habits of each family and what they're used to doing. If you want today to be special, tell your fiancé what you'd like to happen. Not worth wasting a happy day on wishing he knew, when he clearly doesn't. I hope you treat yourself to something nice!


bootygirl · 27/07/2017 12:55

Mine is in two weeks & i am also in early forties. I don't expect too much on the day, it's mid week. However after many years of hit & miss birthdays. DH knows that I like him to book restaurant for meal. I like cards from him & 2ds. Flowers nothing expensive i.e. Aldi.
I do give a list to choose from. I also asked to have an afternoon out for nice walk & tea in nice cafe.
It's not too late. To have a good birthday. Just text Dp and ask him to get you something as surprise & book take away or meal out,


Arealhumanbeing · 27/07/2017 16:27

Happy birthday 🎂🥂

If they count for you then they never stop counting. He needs to know that.


Needsomeflapjacks · 27/07/2017 16:31

Our wedding anniversary is also my birthday. .
If I don't get gifts on the morning he won't get anything on the evening!! Blush
More than his life is worth not to go ott!!


Notknownatthisaddress · 27/07/2017 16:40


You're 48! Grin

YANBU. It is rude and inconsiderate of them. They could show you a BIT more fuss.

Make you you don't give a shit about them on theirs. Hmm

HAPPY BIRTHDAY by the way. Smile


MsVestibule · 27/07/2017 16:53

could my fiancé not have finished loading the dishwasher as a birthday treat I really, really hope you're joking! Surely that's just a standard thing to do?

I get presents, but I have to admit the day is normally pretty humdrum, although we normally go out for dinner.


1969angep · 27/07/2017 17:09

Notknownatthisaddress how did you guess my age 😂😜
MsVestibule not standard. I honestly think he's dishwasher blind sometimes!
I stay at home so expect to do 90% around the house tbh it's my "job" but just for once on my birthday a clear kitchen to come down to would have been nice lol.
He just phoned to say he'd be late and I just hung up! Happy birthday to me!

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zukiecat · 27/07/2017 17:36

Happy Birthday!

I was 50 earlier this year and I couldn't have cared less about it

I got small presents from my DDs, think they were a fiver each (my choice, I didn't want them spending large amounts on me)

A lifelong friend gave me a pretty necklace and that was it

No party, no meal out, no nothing, and I went to work in the evening as usual

I haven't cared about my birthday in years, I just don't get why I'm supposed to celebrate being another year older

I should add that I also hate the concept of Mothers Day, I just don't want cards and presents for any occasion


Notknownatthisaddress · 27/07/2017 23:07


Notknownatthisaddress how did you guess my age

I'll give ya one guess. Grin


Birdsgottaf1y · 27/07/2017 23:57

Happy Birthday Cake

They never stop counting, if you don't want them to.

""I was 50 earlier this year and I couldn't have cared less about it""

I'm 50 next year and can't decide where I want to wake up on my Birthday.

I don't expect others to make my Birthday count, but I am disappointed if they expect a fuss on their Birthday, know that I want to celebrate mine and aren't thoughtful and forthcoming.


justilou · 28/07/2017 00:02

I just turned 45, and if my birthday was a colour, the day was beige at best. I am going to have to change the birthday culture in my family a bit.
Or have Justilou Days when I announce randomly that I demand to be treated like a queen for 24 hrs.


Mum2OneTeen · 28/07/2017 01:23

Happy Birthday! Hope your day improves & you have a wonderful day in the end. Birthdays always 'count' in my book; it's a day to celebrate you! Flowers


Mum2OneTeen · 28/07/2017 01:25

And some Cake and Wine


1969angep · 28/07/2017 07:50

Justilou am loving that idea 😍 My day also pretty beige with flashes of angry red 😂

Glad it's all over to be honest. I genuinely don't care about presents as we have enough stuff cluttering the house already. Guess I was just feeling a little under appreciated and it feels worse on a "special" day.

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hellomarshmallow · 28/07/2017 12:14

Did you have anything nice for your day? You could organize something for the weekend. I hope you treat yourself Cake


Gramgram · 28/07/2017 16:41

Happy birthday Flowers I was 20 20 17 at the last count and still expect cake and candles.


Captainj1 · 28/07/2017 16:49

I'm 42 today and DHs family are big birthday celebrators so I get looked after very nicely. My family, not so much. But we are on holiday this year and I got an extra hour in bed and some small gifts that the kids chose from the local gift shop. That's more than enough for me! Happy birthday for yesterday!


tilligan · 28/07/2017 17:06

Celebrate every birthday! Make sure you arrange some treats for yourself have treats lined up for yourself and
leave plenty of hints about a week before. Some people are just hopeless at remembering and need the nudge.

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