AIBU to ask your opinion on Callie Thorpe

[geekone]

Just to be clear, I think she looks fab she has an awesome sense of style I want her to dress me 😄. But AIBU to think if you put yourself out there on the vlogosphere that you need to be able to cope better with the arseholes out there? Crying on the internet just makes it worse! Again to be clear I hate all the vitriol and people are just mean but have a snidy comment back and move on? Maybe I am BU?

I think that she knows she is overweight and doesn't need it pointing out all the time. I am overweight but still want to look nice. I like hair / make up / clothes and it's nice to see bigger girls and see what they are wearing / where they shop etc. Yes i'm in the process of losing weight but i still want to look good during the process.

I think people have no right to be so damn nasty to each other. She's not hurting anybody and it pisses me off that some alleged adults have that childish mentality of fat = bad, and as soon as they want to insult someone that is the thing they go for.

And yes if it was the odd comment she probably would roll her eyes then get over it. But i don't like the idea that because you are 'known' you shouldn't get upset when people are fucking horrible.

I think she looks great but if you put yourself out there then you need to develop a thick skin and realise that as long as there is internet there will be trolls. Her constant whining is tedious and I think it fuels her detractors who like the reactions she gives them.

I like her, I think it's good she's showing how trolls can affect people. She's not trying to whine about it she is saying that trolling is unacceptable and that the words hurt, that the horrible trolls are saying things to an actual person with feelings. Just because she 'puts herself out there' doesn't make it acceptable, we shouldn't normalise online bullying. It's great she's trying to fight the trolls. Not an easy battle though.

I actually agree with you all I think she looks fab and she should be out there and it doesn't make all of the trolling acceptable at all. I just think she seems quite vulnerable at times and I don't know if then she should put her self through it all. I think to be so prominent on the internet you need to have a thick skin as trollers don't like getting ignored.
Although I did ask if I wa BU as it does also seem like systematic bullying and maybe no be should be thick skinned about that. thanks for the feedback ladies.

Should say "no one" not just no

The trolling is horrible, and the idea that if you are in the public sphere you open yourself to people telling you e.g. to die, hope you get raped etc is terrible.

But.... on the other hand not everyone is going to have a positive opinion of her and will want to express it, live by the sword die by the sword kinda thing.

I think everyone gets it, most of the psbloggers seem to be targeted. Callie just has a larger platform so her voice is heard more. I absolutely don't condone some of the comments she gets but I really do think she needs to practice the block and ignore method.

She works in my building and is really, really nice. I think I vaguely knew she did modelling (very gorgeous IRL), but I'm not young/hip enough to know about the blogging stuff until now. She seems completely normal, with normal emotions so not surprised she got upset!

Honestly?

I think no one should be insulted and abused for the way they look but that trying to suggest size 24 is normal for a young girl is completely wrong. I object to her being in vogue for the same reasons I objected to heroin chic models - because they normalise an unhealthy body.

Of course , noone deserves abuse

But when you sell your soul to social media for money and fame, its sadly the price you pay

*RJnomore1
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What she said!

RJNoMore** Which models do you think have a healthy body?

99% of fashion models are slim (the majority underweight). A tiny 1% are plus size. I don't think being overweight is in any danger of being 'normalised'.

What you're objecting to is someone telling girls who are overweight that it's okay for them to feel attractive. That they can dress in the way they want to. That they don't have to hate their body. This is a lone voice in a sea of media pressure which tells them that they're only worthy if they're thin.

Don't think for a moment that this minority voice cancels out the overwhelming pressure our young girls (and adult women) are out under to be thin. It doesn't. You don't need to worry. They're still going to hear how disgusting they are from every other angle. But seeing someone like Callie might just help them stop hating themselves completely. Or maybe even help them to realise that despite their size, they can be worthy of love, of friendship, of joy, of career success.

How can you possibly disapprove of that?

Having just read the article, I agree with her.

It's about how if you're fat you're not allowed to feel good about yourself, not allowed to feel attractive, not allowed to have or wear nice things.

It's nice to see women the same size as me in magazines in clothing I wouldn't normally wear. Do I still want to lose weight - of course I do, same as I did when I was a size 10 and used to read the same magazines.

A few fat people in magazines is not going to change the ingrained socialisation of young women to want to be thin, white with perfect pert boobs. It's naive and disingenuous to suggest it would.