AIBU to accept payment for doing ds's cleaning?

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Ds late twenties has a very well paid management role. Lots of pressure long hours or works at home some evenings. Has a very active social life as well and a beautiful home that he doesn't always find enough time to keep it looking its best.
We were talking and he said he was going to get a cleaner to come in weekly because the last thing he feels like doing when he's home is cleaning (he already has a gardener come in because he doesn't find time for that either)
I said I'd phone round for him and find out the going rate etc and would do a clean for him this week to give him time to get sorted. Which led to him asking if I'd fancy the job weekly because he didn't really want someone he didn't know in the house when he was out.
So I've accepted although feel a little bit odd charging him but ds said he wouldn't have me clean and do laundry for him if he wasn't paying me. So AIBU to accept payment even if I find it a bit awkward?

He'd be paying someone anyway, and would prefer you to do it, and can afford it, so go for it!
You need a thorough discussion beforehand though about expectations etc...

Yes, accept it - he gets a clean house and knows that a stranger hasn't been in, you are likely to do it anyway and your time is valuable too!

100% YANBU! it's a win win for both of you by the sounds of it.

Not at all, but I'd make sure you get some sort of agreement about what you are expected to do and what you will be paid. Last thing you want is another AIBU? thread on here in a few months time because neither of you managed one another's expectations.

I used to pay my mum to look after my dd as she retired from work to enable this.

I just set up a monthly standing order and tbh, money was never really discussed. It was never awkward x x x

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My late mum used to offer/threaten to do this for me.

Why not?

I think it's fine.

He needed a cleaner and you are happy to do it. He would of been paying anyway so why wouldn't he pay you? At least with you he knows you and you are trusted, so his got the added security of not having a stranger in the house & knowing your do a good job

I clean for my mum and dad. Dad is mums carer and he needed help keeping things clean so asked me if I would But insists on paying me.

It's a good solution.

Go for it.

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Sounds like a great arrangement. Good on him for not expecting you do it for nothing.

If you are doing a job he would pay for, let him pay. He is an adult, you have no obligation to do his cleaning for free.

I agree you need to straighten out expectations. Make sure he knows that you will only be doing XYZ.

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You would BU to do it for free tbh. He would certainly BU to expect you to do it for free

He's prepared to pay for a cleaner, you're prepared to clean for him. Crack on

I pay my mum to clean weekly and do all our ironing. We worked out how much it would be monthly and set up a standing order. She does way more (and for less £) than another cleaner would do but it helps us both out.

Did four hours this morning and cleaned top to bottom apart from his gym (told him I wasn't going in there as I cant move half of the stuff anyway) To be fair it was messy and grubby but think on a weekly basis it won't be anywhere near as bad and will be able to fit in things like windows,cupboards etc on a rota. Will do his ironing here though as I prefer my iron so think four hours in total should see him sorted. He is going to set up a standing order which will make it less awkward. We've got a good relationship so pretty sure that we will speak up if there is a problem.

He does know how to clean, doesn't he? Just worried it's another man who will have a partner on here in a few years wondering why he won't lift a finger round the house...
In light of that, make sure you don't do any extras for free - eg. laundry, tidying, clothes on floor, etc.

(Dont forget to bill for cleaning products, if you want to).

He does knowhowto clean, doesn't he? Just worried it's another man who will have a partner on here in a few years wondering why he won't lift a finger round the house

If he's anything like my DH he probably does know how to clean but just chooses to pay someone to clean rather than do it himself. I don't see the problem with that.

Functional yes he does know how to clean and cook and do laundry. He was well house trained when he left home tbh. It's more that he works and plays hard and doesn't want to clean during the bit of time he is at home when he could be relaxing or exercising.

I pay my mum the going rate to clean my house every week. She's great at it and she does extra bits for me like changing the beds and swapping the washing into the dryer. Why not- I'd be paying someone anyway and it's a bit extra in her pocket.