girls held to a different standard - lighthearted

[PenguinPal14]

I just saw a post on Facebook that annoyed me.
it read;

"if your 12-15 year old daughter left the house this morning wearing a,b,c and lives near x,y,z I thought you should know she is setting fire to the local park with 2 lads."

I hate Facebook shaming kids BUT It also annoys me that this person tries to shame both the girl and her parents but doesn't mention the boys descriptions at all. it just follows the boys will be boys mantra (another saying that grates on me)

does this annoy anyone else?

Definitely Unless the person is a neighbour or something but still, the lads should be equally accountable for what they're doing!

Yes that's awful. Why on earth did this person think posting on Facebook an appropriate response to this anyway!?

Have I misunderstood? How is this light-hearted?

I think it's fine to describe the girl but she should have described the boy too.

Boys possibly look the same, wearing 'uniform' jeans/tracksuits/hoodies but the girl is different because she has a certain colour hair or an unusual top?

They should have mentioned a description of the two boys too, but I don't see a problem with the post other than that. We have issues with teenagers causing trouble within the area, and quite often I see posts on the local group such as the one you described (actually had one tonight about teenage boys playing chicken on a busy road). You'll often see a reply from the potential parent asking for more information, or someone saying they recognise the description and will let the parents know. We are a small village, and all neighbours look out for each other. Parents don't know what their children are up to all the time, and I think it's lovely when a community comes together. As they say 'it takes a village'.