To think some things don't need to be said...

[accidentalgrownup]

Just found out second DC is a boy so went round to FILs house with DD (3) and told her to tell him.

His reaction was... 'ooh we're getting one with a willy!' DD started repeating the word willy over & over... I was a bit shocked so said something along the lines of 'don't say that silly' when he piped up with 'well what do you call it? A tail?'

AIBU when I say that it was completely unnecessary? There's not much point telling DH as he'll just say that's the way his DF is.

He also asked DD if she'd had her boobies out when we'd been on holiday recently. I'm not a complete prude (I don't think)? But people saying things like this to a 3YO really make me uncomfortable.

[RhubardGin]

The willy thing I could deal with, maybe he just thought he was being funny!

But asking a 3 year old girl if she got her boobies out on holiday? Completely inappropriate and downright creepy!

That just doesn't sit right with me, speak to your DH and voice your concerns.

[Andrewofgg]

DH must tell him that that sort of language is not on in front of DD or the next one (on whom ) after which keep a close eye on him and don't leave them together. The willy bit alone might be just thoughtless but the boobies is an alarm signal - for inappropriate words, not necessarily inappropriate actions. But unacceptable either way.

[SeekingSugar]

Oh dear, he sounds awful. I'm afraid I wouldn't be allowing him to see my kids. Ugh, being a relative doesn't make it ok. Would you let her spend time with anyone else who talked like that? He's a total creep.

[Gowgirl]

I find it really sad that people need to cover children in the summer i can remember when a pair of knickers was sufficient in the garden/beach/paddling pool and try to replicate with my kids but a comment like that would have me running for the t shirts and leggings! I would call him on it!

[KingJoffreysRestingCuntface]

He's a pervert.

The boobies comment is disgusting.

I'd be done with the visits for now.

[Angelicinnocent]

We have a relative who makes creepy comments like this and everyone just laughs but it really bothers me.

Whenever he sees my DD he always calls her sexy and has done since she was 2 or 3. Fortunately, he isn't a close relative and we only see him a couple of times a year at big family events.

Whilst I hate the "paedo" assumption, knee jerk reaction stuff that happens, this man has always creeped me out enough to tell my DD not to trust him and never be alone with him. Even now, she will tell me she's going to the loo etc at these occasions so I can check he doesn't follow her and ever since she was little she's blown kisses goodbye to everyone at these occasions cos she doesn't like him trying to kiss her.