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Why do I feel so bad when I was the one who was mislead

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whatisforteamum · 25/07/2017 15:19

Today I feel the weight of the world on me.My dh is distant and emotionally unsupportive.My df is deteriorating weekly from terminal cancer.This is his last birthday.
I posted a month ago about how I loved my job and did long hours there but found it fulfilling.Yesterday I quit.This is my real reason for feeling so bad.Someone who worked 50 hrs a week and was in charge walked out.I was offered another job and was working my notice when I was asked to stay with a good payrise and contract.I pointed out I could it do 70 hrs a week and was told I would be on 40
I've been doing pushing 60 for weeks on shifts.
We were pushed being a third down on staff.I also checked that a team members holiday would be covers by a temp and was told yes it would be.
Now it is not:( which means me doing three peoples jobs with same workload and a bit of assistance from someone I would need to supervise.
My holiday request was declined.I have only had one week in a year.and no bank hols or weekends.
So I took my stuff and left messaging my boss.I feel bad for doing this one colleagues I confided in gave me a hug and could see how I was hard pushed.
My own DF said I did the right thing.I even have work lined up.
I just don't want to ruin this week over thinking it and having anxiety attacks again.
Several others have quit due to the underhandedness there and I know someone whose final months pay was kept for ages which is another thing I wanted to prevent :(

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winobaglady · 25/07/2017 15:23

Flowers Be kind to yourself, you've done something positive for you.
What loyalty have you been shown? None!
Onwards and upwards, head held high!

Bingeslayer · 25/07/2017 15:25

You have done what's best for You,You have another job lined up so are not placing the financial burden on dh,nothing to feel bad about.I have a horrible job,a colleague quit yesterday and although it means extra work for the rest of us,I am so happy for her and wish her good luck.

whatisforteamum · 25/07/2017 15:48

Oh bingeslayer I hope you can escape yourself.My job and colleagues were fabulous people and I was asked to stay for my loyalty and reliability and being very pro active about my workplace.
I did work hard but can't do the work of the four people we previously had with one assistant!!.
Thank you both I know you are right :)

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