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To think there's nothing I can do in this situation?

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moutonfou · 24/07/2017 21:25

I used to be crippled by anxiety. Opportunities passed me by, lost years of my life I can never get back to it, failed to fulfil my potential, etc.

Fast forward a few years' life experience later and I have managed to become happy, fairly confident, have a job I enjoy, I'm a different person.

I am now managing somebody fairly young in my job and it's like looking in a mirror at my old self. She wants to quit daily and is a bag of nerves. I have been quite open (one-to-one with her) about my own struggles and offered advice and support, which I think is helping, but I'm coming to realise, I can't magic her to where I am. She has to live it herself, and if she makes decisions she regrets (like quitting), so be it.

AIBU to think there's nothing I can do or is there some way I can help?

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Glumglowworm · 24/07/2017 21:34

Is there an employee support program you could refer her to for professional help with her anxiety? Probably only applicable in large companies unfortunately. But my employee assistance thing was fantastic when I was on long term sick with mental health issues, and arranged private CBT sessions at no cost to me.

Otherwise, unfortunately, you're right. You can't do it for her. She has to get herself through it. I think it's great that you're able to be open about your own issues, and provide her with support. But you can fight her fight for her, however much you want to

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