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Aibu-To not feel bad at having grassed next door up?

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Lifeisacircus · 24/07/2017 17:14

Sorry pre-warning slightly long post.

Next door are a nice couple who have never caused us any problems until now.

We live in an end terrace house and they live in a detached house to the side of us. About a year ago they built a monster shed, which pretty much looks like a small bungalow in their back yard which which faces the "free" side of our house. It has electric,slate tiles and conservatory like windows and doors.I believe they use it as office space but apart from it looking a bit ugly, this wasnt an issue and life went on as normal. That was until about three weeks ago when i came home from work and noticed that they decided to place an extension to this "Shed".

This extension extends from one side of their "shed" and is attached to the free side of our house. So basically i now live in a mid terrace house!

I went round and spoke to them about this and they basically said it wasn't attached to the side of the house and there was nothing to be concerned about.I contested this and said that it was as clearly attached as they had attached wooden plinths to the side of our house to support the structure. They had also attached the grey gravel type roof covering to the roof of the extension and our house leaving a 6 inch uneven and ugly boarder going up the side of our house,so clearly attached.

Anyway I decided to contact our local planning office to see if we had missed any planning application for this. In order for them to look this up they needed next doors address which i supplied and i was told there was no planning applications for this property.

I left it there with them and said i would speak to next door to sort things out and there was no need to get involved from their end.

My DH actually did the sorting out which basically meant he went round and had a nice chat and he agreed that nothing needed to be done. Annoying Af but I left it as the day of their chat we had an offer on our house and the buyer didn't seem to have an issue with it, so why should i bother kicking a fuss up if we werent going to live there for much longer and the new owner wasn't botherd. Had this not happened i would have pursued this further as i deal with house sales and boundary disputes prevent sales all the time.

Anyway next door came round today slightly annoyed as apparently planning have been round and have instructed them to remove not only the extension but also the monster shed! Woohoo! Or so i thought, now DH is annoyed at me for grassing them up!

Really though? They constructed a monster shed without permission and then attached it to the side of our house without permission.

AIBU to not feel any remorse for accidentally grassing them up? I feel sad that they have wasted a lot of money on both projects but at the end of the day get planning and show some respect for others surely?

OP posts:
EggysMom · 24/07/2017 18:11

Your buyer might not have had a problem with it at that point, but once they get talking to their solicitor, it could have led to the buyer pulling out - effectively your neighbours might have created a party wall.

So you were correct to go to Planning and insist this be sorted properly. If Planning's recommendation is for removal of the structure, well, that's up to Planning - it's not as though you insisted on it.

wheresmyphone · 24/07/2017 18:13

YANBU.
You were more than reasonable!

Lifeisacircus · 24/07/2017 18:15

Not the best picture.

Aibu-To not feel bad at having grassed next door up?
OP posts:
LurkingHusband · 24/07/2017 18:20

Speaking as someone who has just reported their "neighbour" (across the road, actually) for possible planning breaches, YWNBU ...

IdoHaveAName · 24/07/2017 18:21

diagram makes no sense. how is access from the other side?

AngeloftheSouth84 · 24/07/2017 18:24

There is now a danger that you have now complained / had a dispute with your neighbour. You need to legally declare it with your buyer. They could pull out. You could have trouble selling your property. The value of your property will now be decreased and your buyers may now request you drop the price of your house.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 24/07/2017 18:25

Yes that extension is definitely attached to your house, judging by your Very disappointing diagram Grin

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 24/07/2017 18:27

It's actually done the buyers a favour though, Angel as the whole thing has to come down?
Do you have to declare disputes with neighbours when selling? I didn't know this.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 24/07/2017 18:28

YADNBU.

The neighbours aren't annoyed with you. They're annoyed they've been found out.

There's a house near the DCs school that has just had a massive extension done leaving the house next to it with like an inch or twos width between them.

I doubt that passed planning either.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 24/07/2017 18:28

Erm remind your DH if their shed thing accidentally had a fire, guess who's house it's attached to would have also caught fire! And I doubt it would have been insured either...

Glumglowworm · 24/07/2017 18:29

Yadnbu

If they thought planning permission was something that only affects "other people" then it's their own fault.

If they query it just say you assumed they had gone through the correct channels as they are required to do by law, so you were querying information. It's their own fault that your query then led to them losing their illegal shed/extension.

HollyHollyHo · 24/07/2017 18:30

My neighbour has also constructed a monster shed in his garden. It's a gym and an office.

I asked about planning permission and he said he didn't need any as it's technically a "movable structure" or something Hmm

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires · 24/07/2017 18:32

Isn't a shed classed as a temporary structure & therefore doesn't need permission?

AwaywiththePixies27 · 24/07/2017 18:34

there was another poster who had a similar sounding monstrosity in next doors garden. but her council wasn't really interested.

Yep. Wasn't me but we had a similar issue. The council told us 'X can do waht they want to their own house'. Only their renovations /extensions weren't confined to 'their own house'. It encroached on a few neighbours lands. One who also happens to own their own house. Hmm

AwaywiththePixies27 · 24/07/2017 18:36

I asked about planning permission and he said he didn't need any as it's technically a "movable structure" or something

Nope. Tell planning. Serves the self centred gits right.

pseudonymity · 24/07/2017 18:37

It might not even be you that alerted the planning authorities, any old busybody neighbour might have been on the case, people love this kind of thing.

AllT0rque · 24/07/2017 18:43

YADNBU

Chancers like your neighbours are usually the first to grass other people up when the shoe's on the other foot!

Billben · 24/07/2017 18:44

Do you have to declare disputes with neighbours when selling?

I thought it was only the case if solicitors were involved. I might be wrong about this though. Otherwise you'd have to declare all disagreements/arguments surely.

Blanketdog · 24/07/2017 18:47

Somebody reported us to planning - they don't tell you who. We still got to do what we wanted because it was compliant with the law...I still wonder who did it though.

Billben · 24/07/2017 18:48

Good on you OP by the way. The law applies to all of us, not just a selected few.

HotelEuphoria · 24/07/2017 18:57

Omg you star! I would have been livid, our next door neighbours also have a monster shed in their garden with a log burning stove that spews out smoke from time to time and chickens, in a suburban semi garden. 3/4 garden is taken up with the shed and I am pretty sure it doesn't comply with planning. I think I am now going to report it, can you do it anonymously? It is a bloody eyesore. I am done with looking out of my bedroom window at What look alike a caravan site, people could live in my neighbours shed, in fact there are smaller London flats.

ExplodedCloud · 24/07/2017 18:58

No Bill solicitors don't have to be involved.
This isnt a dispute though.

Friedsprout · 24/07/2017 18:59

A shed is not a temporary building, nor would it be seen as moveable as regards planning. Depending on the size, position in garden any restraints placed on original house planning permission sheds may require planning.

Goingtobeawesome · 24/07/2017 18:59

Your dh is a wimp.

A side neighbour had a loft conversion done. Then applied for retrospective planning permission Hmm. Was granted Angry. The house owners next door are in the process of having the same done. Completely overlooks my garden but apparently they are allowed as they aren't over looking the road Confused.

user1495025590 · 24/07/2017 19:06

I think you might have cut your nosew off to spite your face.Your buyer was happy with the arrangement.You have now got to raise this on your form.To those saying it is not dispute, it will be if NDN does not want to remove it.I think you should have let sleeping dogs lie as you were due to move out anyway.

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