To think this is cheeky!

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DH Received a text yesterday from FIL saying 'hello if you remember us we are your parents. You're invited to a BBQ tomorrow if you remember how to get here. You and (my name) will need to wear name badges so we remember who you are.'

We saw them last week and I just find this weird and passive aggressive. DH just laughed it off and said it was nothing, but we've been married 2 and a half years and his parents always make digs about us not seeing them even though we see them once a week! Every week!

My DH works long different shifts every week and I work evenings so it's not always possible to see them more than that. Am I bu to think that text was a bit cheeky and also a bit of a dig? Or am I worrying about nothing?

Sounds like the kind of thing my MIL would say and we see them all the time (loads more than we see my family!)

Bloody irritating- I'd be tempted not to go on principle, has your DP replied?

Of course it's passive aggressive. Ignore and spend your time investigating housing and employment options 300 miles away. I would.

I would be replying that since he is starting to lose the plot, would he like you to book tickets for him to go to Dignitas in Switzerland before it's too late? Assisted suicide is far better than going ga ga.

@sooperdooper he said we couldn't attend this time as his shifts has changed and they didn't reply back

I don't find it funny tbh.

Strikes me as an undisguised dig for more visits.

If it's the sort of joke your husband & his dad share then fine, no harm done.

I think that it's the sort of thing that could easily wear thin.

If you are not exaggerating and do see them once every single week (and even if it was every fortnight) then YANBU and quite frankly, that is a weird and what id find quite an aggressive text.

I ask, is it down to your husband that you visit that regularly or at the request of them? If the former, maybe it's a passive aggressive way to tell you to stop visiting them so much and leave them alone. If it's at their request, I have absolutely no idea and it's strange

Please turn up wearing name badges!

Wear the name badges and bring a couple of brochures for assisted living places/nursing homes "since you're getting so forgetful these days"

Huh? How far away do you live? I live 5 mins from my parents and get on well with them but I don't see them more than once a week!

You see them EVERY week?! Intense.

Every bloody week. That's ridiculous!