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To have expected at least a text?

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McBinkers · 23/07/2017 10:20

My friend was going away to a concert last night with her DH, SIL and her DH. She had no one to mind her 4 and 2 year old. I volunteered. She dropped them off yesterday at 6:30am and they are to be collected by her mum at noon. So overnight and a bit. Her 4 y/o has a pretty serious condition that requires medication 3 times a day and her 2 y/o is being potty trained.

I've not received one text or phone call to see if they're ok. Messages are delivering and they're posting on snapchat so I know they've access, but no replies or answering the phones (kids wanted to say goodnight) AIBU to be pissed off that they've just not bothered to check in or is it normal to go away without checking in or answer the phone?

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Gemini69 · 23/07/2017 11:20

Don't offer and do not child mind again x

RebornSlippy · 23/07/2017 11:21

I'd be pissed off to, OP. If someone was minding my kids and they asked for a call to say Goodnight, I'd have done so. Actually, I wouldn't have needed to be asked. Posting on social media at the same time is outrageous.

They're piss takers and it is lax parenting.

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McBinkers · 23/07/2017 11:22

They were getting a 7am train to the city the concert was in, and her mum is collecting them as their train home isn't getting in until 3. At least I hope she shows now haha. Count down the minutes now. It's been a long two days and I'm living for a glass of wine tonight.

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McBinkers · 23/07/2017 11:23

I will definitely not be volunteering again

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AreWeThereYet000 · 23/07/2017 11:24

I'd find it odd to not get a text asking how they are/did they go to bed okay/has xxx taken the medication okay?

But I check up on my kids when they are been looked after by anyone other than me (not checking up in the I don't trust you sense, questions like I have mentioned above) so I can't get my head round why others wouldn't do the same.

Maybe try sending a snapchat if they are active on there but ignoring calls and texts x

bloodymaria · 23/07/2017 11:31

Definitely make this the last time you babysit for them, pisstakers that they are!

BewareOfDragons · 23/07/2017 11:33

Noon is coming. Her 'excuse' will be interesting...

ImperialBlether · 23/07/2017 11:37

It's her mum who's collecting at noon, though.

Why did she need to go at 6.30 am to a concert that night?

Salmotrutta · 23/07/2017 11:37

I would definitely have expected someone to answer their phone during a 30 hour jaunt if I was minding their children!

Especially when one child needs medicating and both are very young and you'd texted to say one was a bit upset!

My DC send quick texts to check everything's ok/kids behaving even when I only have the grandchildren for a few hours - I thought that was fairly standard tbh.

Passmethecrisps · 23/07/2017 11:38

Not checking in at all is completely beyond me and to ignore messages clearly stating that one of the kids is struggling is really mean spirited.

We were at a concert a couple of months ago and dd went to stay with her childminder over night. It would never have occurred to me not to check in via text a couple of times including a "let me know if there are any issues".

Leaving at 7am is bizarre anyway - there can't only be one train a day surely?

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McBinkers · 23/07/2017 11:42

It was apparently SIL idea to get the benefit of being away for a day, but know I'm thinking it was more her idea to get the most free fecking babysitting she could. I've them all packed and ready to go with their bags by the door waiting on granny. 20 minutes left and counting....

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VladmirsPoutine · 23/07/2017 11:42

I don't think Yabu. Never volunteer again and if asked be honest and say why.

CremeFresh · 23/07/2017 11:44

I wouldn't see a text as checking up on me , surely it's just courtesy!

Salmotrutta · 23/07/2017 11:44

Well I hope Granny arrives on time!

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McBinkers · 23/07/2017 12:00

Friends mum arrived at ten to, phew! they're away to hers now until friend arrive she back

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justbinthefeckinbyebyebox · 23/07/2017 12:00

Here's to your well deserved Wine
Really uope they turn up OP!!!

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McBinkers · 23/07/2017 12:01

Arrives back** autocorrect is a balls at times.

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Salmotrutta · 23/07/2017 12:01

Just dropping by to find out if Granny has arrived yet

Huskylover1 · 23/07/2017 12:01

What an absolute piss taker. There is no way I would mind them again, in your shoes. If she asks, just say that you found it too stressful given that they were not contactable.

RebornSlippy · 23/07/2017 12:01

Did you tell the granny that you hadn't heard a dickie bird from them despite asking for a call?

Salmotrutta · 23/07/2017 12:01

Oh that's good!

PollyPelargonium52 · 23/07/2017 12:06

If that were me I would send them a text to say I would not be minding them again.

Justaboy · 23/07/2017 12:11

Poor children does their mum really care about them?.

Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 23/07/2017 12:24

Definitely not being unreasonable, especially with her dd being on medication. Has she got in contact with granny I wonder to see if she collected them?

lalalalyra · 23/07/2017 12:28

Not answering your call is ridiculous. You could have been needing to ask them anything about their child's medication ffs. I wouldn't babysit again, that's an absolute piss take.

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