My parents and ils are lovely grandparents. However, dd1, aged 6, is starting to become a bit of a madam. Dh and I are having issues that I didn't anticipate until she was a teenager - talking to us rudely, not being very grateful, being a bit demanding etc. Its always worse when we are at a granparents house and its starting to seep into our homelife. Weve just come back from holiday and dds entitled behaviour was a real low. DH and I are a pretty good team and we have taken her in hand, there are things we need to sort out which we've identified and we have spoken with dd about how unkind she is being. But, we want to say something to our parents because they spoil her and I think it's part of the problem. My mum continually has a gift for her waiting for each weekly visit. Usually a magazine and a box of shopkins or similar. I want to ask her to stop. It's ridiculous and is getting out of hand. There is litwrally a little pile of things waiting for her every week. She doesnt even read the magazines anymore and i have to remind her to say thank you. Dh wants to talk to his parents about the fact that mil refuses to tell her off. If she says or does something unkind to her cousin, mil will jump up and say 'it's okay, you don't have to argue, come on, let's go and get some ice cream'. If I or dh tell her off mil pulls a face. She has refused repeatedly to tell dd off even when her behaviour has warranted it. So it seems to dd that grandma is on her side and mum and dad are horrible. There is more to dd's behaviour than this but I'm sick of being undermind by the grandparents and have them ignore us when we ask for them to be more supportive. I don't mind them treating her occasionally. I don't mind them feeding her ice cream before dinner or letting her stay up late on sleepovers. But, she is started to become a bit precocious and it will end up hurting her in the end. She is a lovely girl and im scared shes turning into a spoiled brat. Awbu? Any advice?