To expect my DH not to take piss

[PetalMettle]

Out of me in front of DS?

We have ds2. I've asked before that he doesn't criticise me or take the piss in front of him as he needs to respect me, and today he'd washed his hands and DH said "good you're good at personal hygiene you can teach mummy".
I said very calmly and quietly "no don't do that please, I've said before I don't like you doing that" and he's being really sulky with me. Before he's said things like "I'm just joking, where's your sense of humour?" But I don't think it's funny and especially not in front of my son. Aibu?

Nip this in the bud now. Whatever it takes. It is not acceptable.

I had this with my ex. I took it all on the chin. One of the defining moments of the end of our relationship for me was when I fell down a steep bank and hurt myself and ex found it hilarious, got DD to join in with laughing about how stupid and unco-ordinated mummy is. And walked off to leave me to get up myself.

He is being sulky because you wouldn't allow him to put you down? Well, the poor baby.

My DH does this sometimes and I hate it. I had a serious chat with him and he has tried hard to stop. Dont get why it's so difficult for him but he has improved.

rainybo sounds like you are well rid.

I would have another chat with your DH later when on your own and just make it clear you don't want to be put down in front of your DC and you won't accept it. I agree with you challenging him in front of them too though because you don't want them to think treating you like that is normal.

My ex used to do that, it's horrible...like he was trying to get ds to join him in ganging up on me....fuck off and grow up!

But that's not a joke, how is that even slightly funny?
It's a put down and said to undermine your confidence and self esteem, it insinuates you're dirty.
Doing it you in front of your child is shitty, shitty behaviour.

YANBU

He shouldn't be criticising you or taking the p*ss out of you, full stop!!

Sorry but you Dh is a pathetic dick and if you don't stop him it will get worse.
My Dh did this and would follow it up with oh mummy is miserable /boring and dosnt like fun when I pulled him on it.
Children pick up on it and it won't be long before your lovely dc will be mirroring his shitty behaviour.
It shows his own lack of intelligence and self esteem.
Pull him on it every fucking time and if he can't reign it in tell him to fuck off and bully someone else.

Thank you all. That's what I worry about Patricia. My DS is such a sweet caring child (I know everyone thibks that about their own!)
It's hard. I wouldn't want DH to have him alone overnight

It's hard. I wouldn't want DH to have him alone overnight.

Sorry to be harsh, but I see this so often on here. i think to a large extent it's an excuse not to take action.

Do you have concerns about DS's safety with DH?

He drinks. And in the Evenings will fall asleep on the sofa and he's never done any get ups. Yesterday he went off for a lie down at 630 for an hour.
You're right though that I don't like taking action. I hate this as there's no good solurion

If he's a big drinker, it's unlikely he will want much contact with his kids.

Does he like spending time with them?

We only have one. Yes he's very "you'll never take my boy". And he's often very good with him. I just worry about overnights