Chubby

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First post, been lurking for a while.

My partner recently asked me if she was chubby to which I replied yes. Now I do not think she is fat or that she needs to loose weight but I would not say her body shape was skinny so if she is not fat and not skinny I though chubby was suitable.

This was obviously not what she wanted to hear so was upset and has told friends and family what I said.

AIBU

It doesn't mean what you thought it meant.
Apologise and make it sincere.

Oh dear.

How very literal men (presuming you are male here OP) can be.

It's quite likely that she thinks she's "chubby" because of the pressure constantly put upon women to look like anorexic barbies. Hence she was looking to you for reassurance when asking the question.

Tell her she is beautiful / sexy and you think she's perfect the way she is.
Tell her you don't find skinny attractive. Rinse and repeat.

tell he ryou looked it up and got it wrong.she'l lappreciate this

Moonpower just a cautionary tale... My DH constantly telling me I looked great/fine made me unaware of piling 3st :/ So great in theory but maybe it depends on the individual

You took the words out of my mouth @Aquamarine1029.

Why is everyone telling the OP "you should tell her she's beautiful/perfect blah blah blah". How about he tells her to just stop being ridiculous? Why should he have to validate her all the time. She needs to work on her own insecurities.

When I ask DH if I'm fat he says "no, you're perfect as you are". When I say "am I skinny?" He says "nope, you're perfect as you are".

I then find myself looking at a super model and saying "but, wouldn't I be more attractive if I looked like her?" And he would say "no, I didn't marry her, I married you".

Sometimes he will say "yes you are fat, huge infact, bordering on morbidly obese - in fact I've been considering getting the doors widened so you can fit through them properly". It makes me laugh and makes me realise how daft I sound to him banging on about being fat all the time 😂

If she didn't want an answer then she shouldn't have asked. I'm fat. I never mention or ask other people about my shape because if by some miracle they haven't noticed, I don't want to bring it to their attention.