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to not know wedding ettiquette?

18 replies

user1492287253 · 21/07/2017 22:29

have not been to one in years. if it says wedding is at 2.30 what time should we get there? do you just turn up at 2.30 and assume they have factored seating and faffage in?

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sparkli · 21/07/2017 22:34

No! That's when the ceremony starts. You should be there at least 15-20mins before, IMO. Better early than late, plus it gives you plenty chance to dress watch Wink

LovelyOtherDinosaur · 21/07/2017 22:35

I would arrive between 1:45 and 2:00. The ceremony will start at 2:30 so get there, settle in, get a drink and mingle a bit before the ceremony begins. Have a lovely day!

leafv · 21/07/2017 22:36

I would assume the ceremony starts at 2:30, so I would get there at 2:15ish

skyzumarubble · 21/07/2017 22:39

No! Get there for 2 maybe ten past if a small register office.

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 21/07/2017 22:42

Lovely- it's a bit difficult to get a drink in a church. Wink

Dd1 is getting married in a few weeks. The ceremony starts at 2 and the Vicar has asked that guests arrive for 1.45.

Backhometothenorth · 21/07/2017 22:43

Hijacking the thread somewhat but can I ask what the norm value for requested vouchers at a friend's wedding is? I was thinking £50-100??

milliemolliemou · 21/07/2017 22:46

Factor in parking if you're driving. And definitely 15-20 for a smallish wedding, half an hour for a large one - if only to help the poor sodding ushers.

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user1492287253 · 21/07/2017 22:47

thank you! will book a cab for 1.45.
we are giving 50 in cash as a gift. i heard 50 was fine.

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ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 21/07/2017 22:57

Do people really arrive 45 minutes early??

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 21/07/2017 22:59

It would be exceptionally rude to turn at the stated ceremony time! That's when the wedding starts so everyone should already be sat down and waiting for the bride to enter.

Thank god you asked Grin

Sara107 · 21/07/2017 23:06

Yes, get there in plenty of time. We were married in a registry office, on a summer Saturday it is an assembly line. It was made very clear to us that the ceremony would start bang on time, and if we were late we would lose our slot - they won't make the whole day run late for one couple. So we told our guests all to be there at least 20 mins ahead of the ceremony and we only had one late arrival.

DorisMcSweeney · 21/07/2017 23:11

General wedding etiquette is
i) drink at least a bottle of wine before the service
ii) as the bride arrives say in a stage whisper 'blimey how did she get into that'
iii) flirt outrageously with any elderly men or teenage boys
iv) heckle during the speeches
v) fall into the cake

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 21/07/2017 23:26

Definitely get there before the start time - don't do what I accidentally did once and have to run past the bride and her bridesmaids at the door! (This was due to really bad traffic on the way to the church, we'd been travelling for about 5 hours, should have been 3)

TittyGolightly · 21/07/2017 23:29

Definitely get there before the start time - don't do what I accidentally did once and have to run past the bride and her bridesmaids at the door!

Our best man did that.

LovelyOtherDinosaur · 21/07/2017 23:31

@IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday haha true! . Wasn't even considering a church wedding. Spot the athiest 😄

15-20 mins before for a church wedding then, defo!

changemyname1 · 21/07/2017 23:36

DorisMcSweeney

Brilliant Grin

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 22/07/2017 00:07

That must have been a bit of a worry, Titty! Shock

TittyGolightly · 22/07/2017 09:14

I was 20 mins late as well! The man is an idiot. He also forgot his speech. Hmm

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