I was once a friend with this girl, who I guess you could call a nice-queen bee type. And yes, even though she was past thirty and I was in late twenties that was the sort of mindset that we both had at the time. We were both single and attractive (however I dare say she's seen herself as way more attractive.) Then she started to withdraw from the friendship when I lost weight and started to attract more male attention (I know, sounds super shallow but I can't really think of any other reason for her sudden withdrawal.)
Eventually I confronted her, to which she reacted negatively. She also did something quite underhanded, we booked a weekend away together, and later on I found out from Facebook she's gone with another friend instead - I've already paid for it as well :-/ In a spur of the moment decision I deleted her off Facebook.
Eventually she contacted me after three years to meet up, but I'm not keen on having her in my life (doesn't seem like a reliable companion.) Plus it's not like she made any real effort - just an open ended text "let her know when free" which sounded a bit like a cop out, putting making any concrete arrangements in my court.
However what bothers me is there were 3-4 girls that we were mutual friends with. Ever since I've got that text from the "queen bee" a couple of them started to message me every now and again with these vague requests to "meet up" but noting ever comes out of these (i.e. I'd suggest Monday, it turns out on Monday Girl A is busy, she says Tuesday, turns out on Tuesday she has other plans, we agree on Thursday and then I don't hear from her at all.) In addition they often talk about the said "queen bee" in conversations along the lines of "oh would you know what happened to her? I've not heard from her in a while. She always says we should meet but it never happens." I also noticed some other friends we had in common deleted me on Facebook. Then I met some other girl we both used to know in town, we spoke about meeting up, the conversation was going really well, the. added her on FB which she never accepted etc.
Since these mutual friends have always been closer to her than me, I started to think that this is some immature revenge ploy. I don't know if I'm getting paranoid or not, but the time frame and the reference point of all these instances seems a bit off.
So my first question is - am I completely out of my mind and paranoid? AIBU?
And my second question is - is there any point in trying to talk to some of these girls about it? I feel tempted to just block them on FB at this stage but then I don't want to react out of proportion. And if I was to talk to them then how should I approach the issue?