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cjt110 · 21/07/2017 09:33

My mum went to see her GP in Feb and during a urine test they discovered blood in her urine. In the interim time she has been on various antibiotics, had ultrasounds and IIRC an endoscopic procedure to ensure the bladder etc is all ok. She was also referred to the continence clinic as she frequently urinates (always have as long as I remember). They tested her urine and again it shows blood in her urine. They also said it contained glucose. She was given tablets to try and stop her urinating so much approx 2 months since by the GP. She was prescribed a different kind by the continence clinic and had to go to the GP yesterday. The Nurse Practitioner she saw said, again, the blood is nothing to be concerned about. That she doubt there was glucose because they had never picked it up before and administered the prescription the continence clinic recommended. when my Mum got the tablets, she cannot have them due to a heart condition. This happened with a previous course of tablets issued by the GP.

She said last night this is getting her down quite a bit. That she feels she is being brushed off. That no-one is listening to her.

So I offered to go to the GP with her. She can be quite timid about things and I have said I will make sure he GP makes a referral/further tests.

SO AIBU to help her with this?

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PurpleDaisies · 21/07/2017 09:35

If she wants you come, of course you wouldn't be unreasonable to go with her. It's common for patients to bring a friend/relative with them.

Sunshinegirls · 21/07/2017 09:35

No, yanbu. If your mum wants you to go then absolutely go

cjt110 · 21/07/2017 09:49

I feel for my poor Mum. Its been ongoing for some time.

I just don't know if it is normal. She is currently going through the menopause. She wants a cause/explanation and perhaps there isn't one?

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Sexykittenhells · 21/07/2017 09:51

YANBU your poor mum yes go with her keep going keep pushing don't just take the "its the menopause" option they might give you if neither of you feel its right.

ittakes2 · 21/07/2017 09:52

Under Nice Nhs guidelines if someone has blood in the urine three times the doctor has to refer the to a specialist. Some people do just have blood in their urine. I went to a specialist and I'm one of those people.

FlakeBook · 21/07/2017 09:55

YANBU at all. Ask them to do a finger prick to check her blood sugar too. It takes seconds and rules out diabetes.

Take along NICE guidelines re referral to specialist. My dh had blood in his urine and was having a cystoscopy within a couple of weeks along with kidney scans. He was fine. But it was thoroughly investigated.

notpostedherebefore · 21/07/2017 09:55

Just to reassure you- microscopic blood in the urine (i.e. blood that you can't see) is not an unusual finding- a lot of people have it. The vast majority (90%) have nothing wrong with them and a cause is never found. Once you have had the tests to make sure it isn't cancer (an ultrasound and cystoscopy- which it sounds like she has had) then there really isn't anything else that needs to be done. Please reassure your mum that this isn't anything to worry about and there are not any more tests that need to be done.

In terms of the other tablets and her concerns about these- then it sounds like a good idea to go with her. It may well be that no one has realised quite how concerned she is and that she needs a bit more reassurance- it would help to have you there to explain. Can you book double appointments at your GPs so you can go through it all without having to rush?

isupposeitsverynice · 21/07/2017 09:56

Yeah I would go, I've done similar for a friend who was single and pregnant and felt sh e was getting fobbed off over her concerns about the pregnancy. It did help, although we were both taken aback when her consultant congratulated me on her pregnancy Hmm my first and probably only experience of pseudo-male privilege! Grin It's so easy to get flustered when you're unwell and not being listened to, you can remind her of the points she wants to make and what have you, and also provide a back up memory of what was said.

cjt110 · 21/07/2017 09:57

She only went to the GP in the beginning to see if she could do anything to stop her urinating to frequently :(

Ittakes2 Thats good to know, Thank you. I would think now it has been 3 times - twic with her GP and then this continence clinic. She has basically been told she has to jump through several hoops (antibitiocs, continence clinic etc) before she can be referred?

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juneau · 21/07/2017 09:58

Menopause shouldn't cause blood in her urine, surely?

If she's timid, then quite possibly she IS being brushed off. I'm not timid in the least, but I find with the NHS you often have to fight quite hard to get things sorted out if they're not fixed with one appointment. Communications between doctors/clinics/appointment makers often seem to go astray so regular phone calls to chase people up may well be necessary. Passivity is not your friend if you find yourself in a situation like this.

cjt110 · 21/07/2017 10:00

notpostedherebefore Thats very helpful to know.

I won't be rude to the Doctor but will quite firmly say look, it's been going on for 6 months. Please can you send her for a referral to rule everything pout and that she's just one of those people.

I think once she knows that perhaps it will ease her mind. Her sister has recently come through cervical cancer, as well as having a scare herself so that is likely weighing heavy on her mind.

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PinkDaffodil2 · 21/07/2017 10:15

You've mentioned 3 issues I think - maybe good to take a short list to the GP so you don't forget to mention any of them, or so if the GP is tight for time you can make sure the one your Mum thinks is most important can be covered thoroughly. Also it can help to think beforehand of what outcome you're hoping for each issue.

  1. blood in urine - seems to have been pretty thoroughly investigated, and doctors aren't concerned - is this something you / your mum are still worried about though? Would be very reasonable to discuss that with GP if that's the case.
  2. Sugar in one urine sample - are you concerned about diabetes? If your mum has any symptoms / risk factors you could ask for a blood test.
  3. Urinary frequency - I'm assuming that the exercises and medicines aren't helping much with the symptoms - she has already been referred to the continence clinic - are you hoping for a referral for a surgical opinion? GP might want to try other medicines first, or not.
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