So when my first DP and I bought our first house we didn't have much money so a lot of our stuff was second hand. One thing we really wanted though was a new bed which we ordered for £250 with mattresss. It was to be our one "new" item in which to start our home.
After we ordered it a family member states that a another relative (elderly) was selling their double bed for £50 with mattress and she said she would let them know we needed one. I thanked her but said 'do already ordered one. This caused uproar as apparently I was being ridiculous to turn the offer down. I stuck to my guns and basically said thanks but we'd stick with our plans.
Then for days my mum would ring and say "have you thought about that bed yet?" To which I would say "no I already said, we've ordered the one we want". She would respond with "but your auntie says this one is a really good bed! Almost new! Why don't you just buy it and save yourself the money?". I would constantly say "because we want the one we've ordered!".
This went on for weeks until I got arsey about it. My mum rand one day and said "your auntie needs to know about this bed as she'll sell it to someone else if you don't make your mind up!" I responded with "I already have a bed in order!" To which she would say "we'll cancel it!" Ffs. I said "I don't want to cancel it! I want it!". She said "well I think you're being ridiculous!".
Eventually my new bed arrived and for weeks afterwards family would say "wasn't you daft about that bed?".
Obviously this happened years ago but it's always stuck in my head and I would go as far as to say it left me with a bitter after taste about how controlling and petty our family can be. Other examples have happened since then, over the years but whenever I think about this, I still get cross.
AIBU? I know it sounds daft and a bit of a non-event but I've struggled with low self esteem and self consciousness my entire life and this incident sticks out to me as something a psychologist would be interested to hear about should I ever decide to discuss my mental health!!