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To be worried about the kids?

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MonAvAnderwAll · 20/07/2017 22:13

im just after some advice please!

A year and a half ago I split with my ex of 4 years, we haven't had any contact at all since then so I don't know anything she's been up to apart from what people have told me and to be honest I don't entertain gossip. my ex has 5 kids and she refused to let me see them when we split which broke my heart but there was nothing I could do, but anyway, today I ran into a mutual friend and she started telling me that she's worried about my exes kids as their mother is drinking and doing hard drugs a lot lately with her new girlfriend, apparently the kids hate the new girlfriend and they're also turning up at school looking dishevelled and dirty. I have no idea wether to believe what I've heard or not, I mean she was never a brilliant mum as far as maternal goes, but she always kept them clean and tidy, she also never touched alcohol and only smoked weed outside in the shed as I didn't agree with it at all. As far as I know social services are already involved so I'm assuming if what she's said is true that SS will be aware? I'm stuck between wanting to make sure the kids are safe and the whole thing being none of my business! What would you do?

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Squirmy65ghyg · 20/07/2017 22:16

Are they your kids?

Barbie222 · 20/07/2017 22:17

A lot depends on if you have parental responsibility here.

DaviesMum · 20/07/2017 22:18

She smoked weed in the shed? Talk about walking away from a car crash, for you. Too many kids fall through the gaps because concerns are not reported.

Ameliablue · 20/07/2017 22:26

It depends if you would be willing to support the kids. If not you'd probably be better to keep your distance.

newdaylight · 20/07/2017 22:28

I'm assuming from what you say they're not your children.

I'm not sure what you can do really. You can't really report the information you have because you can't vouch for it

MonAvAnderwAll · 20/07/2017 22:31

They aren't my kids, sorry I should have said that in the original post. All of the kids dads are involved and do have regular contact. The only reason I stayed so long was for the kids but in the end I realised it wasn't the best thing for them because me and her weren't getting on at all, as far as I know SS have major involvement and are aware of the weed smoking so I'm assuming if they had concerns they would have done something about it?

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