Do you ever wish you had someone else's child?

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My mother said to me that she wishes she does. She says I'm not normal because I'm not loud and extroverted.

I just feel sad.

No. I did used to covert nephews and nieces until I had my own kids. But mine are by far, far my favourite children on the planet.

No.... I adore my kids. BUT...... I always wished I had a different mother. One who actually liked me might have been nice.

My mother said to me that she wishes she does. She says I'm not normal because I'm not loud and extroverted. I just feel sad

Listen and believe. Your mother is a cunt.
Action: find a counsellor, if you're in the UK go through your GP. A nasty mother can blight your life - I know, I had one.
Action: Mother yourself. Think about how you would treat a child of your own and treat yourself like that. Tell yourself how much you love you.

My mother (outrageous bitch that she was) wished she had a 'daughter who was invited to parties'. I'm Asperger's, socialising has never been my thing. She also, really, wanted a daughter who slept around. I didn't do that either. And she always, right up to just before her death, accused me of wanting to have sex with my dad. Yes, she was barking. But it still hurt. And I still loved her, still wanted her to love me, right until the end. But it was a relief when she died. I miss her (she had some good points, too) but I acknowledge who she was.

No but there's been many times in my life I've wished I had a different mother though. We're good now but I am the opposite to her. It's not so much that she wanted me to be like her, but for her there is only one way to think, live and treat others, her way.
I'm not her, it's taken her many years to realise that I'm different and that is not the same as bad and far from worthless. My mother is a selfish extrovert, that's unfortunately why she's alone and very few of her relationships and friendships work out long term. If I was like her, we'd have lost contact years ago.
Hang in there, you are who you are, be proud of that

I have wanted to have/take another persons child and husband!!! (not like that) the mother in this family was a total narcopath. Every excuse, I had the child to stay for holidays and sleepovers. Her husband was lovely man who had no chance against this evil bitch hiding against the mask of religion! She still pops up on the outskirts of my social circle! Abso -bloody-lutely bonkers.

No but I wish I had a different father. It would suit mine if I commited suicide his hint . BTW I don't see him, haven't for years and happy with that.

OP can you get a life away from the woman who gave birth to you? won't say DM as she isn't behaving like one .

The only time I have ever wished for a different child, when mine was having a full strop on in a supermarket and a dad and his non stropping child walked by.

The only thing that made me feel better was the look the dad gave me, which was been there, done that.

I would never change my son for anything.
You need to get away from your mother, it sounds harsh but you don't owe your family anything.

Sometimes - one of my friends in particular has a rather adorable little girl. She's always very polite & helpful but has a fab sense of humour & I just love spending time with her.

I'd want her in addition to my own DC though, not instead of. My DC have their challenges but are also pretty amazing in their own ways.

Sometimes I'd quite like different parents. I remember as a teenager getting annoyed when people complained about their parents wanting to be involved in their lives. I'd have loved to have parents who actually wanted to be involved & did more than just tell me I need to learn to deal with things myself. No attempt was ever made to teach/support me in dealing with any of the bullying issues I faced, I was just told to ignore it/girls can be cruel. At least it's made me a more protective/engaged parent because I never want my children to feel like they have to deal with things by themselves if they're not coping!

I was regularly told as a child that I should have been aborted I've never recovered fully from the abuse I suffered.

for you OP and I'm sorry your mum said such a thing to you.

My mother has often said that she wishes I was more 'bubbly' and more successful (as being a teacher is rather ordinary). Oh, and I should have a perm.

That's an awful thing for your mother to say. She is being cruel and deliberately hurtful.

Well that was mean. Your mum isn't saying that in the hope you'll suddenly become the life and soul. She's doing it to make you feel bad about yourself and possibly goad you into an argument. What an immature cow. Er I would know my favourite quote from my mum is 'blah blah is the daughter I never had' to me the actual daughter she has. Thanks!