Sudden drop out

[Foxysoxy01]

So I'm not sure if IABU or if it's the family so need the wisdom of mumsnet before I work myself up even more!

Would you be pissed if you had sent out wedding invites, got them back, organised allergies and paid for food only to find that suddenly a couple of family members have decided to not come after all.

So basically we have paid for their food, added them into our numbers (only allowed a certain amount and had to not invite friends as not enough room for everyone) for them to up and change plans with no time left to change anything.

I completely understand that people can't make it to things and childcare/holidays/work can make it impossible to get time out for someone else's wedding, but why say you were coming, allow us to pay for your place then suddenly announce your not coming after all!

I know things come up and can't be helped but there is no illness or anything. The reason given would have been there when they accepted the invite.

I am quite prepared to be told IABU and just to let it go but I find myself being really pissed off about it as I couldn't invite a few close friends due to numbers and they have planned holidays now.

[HipsterHunter]

Yes.
Mega annoying! Friendship ending really.

[KoalaDownUnder]

YANBU. Rude!

[Foxysoxy01]

Yeah, what make it worse is it's family.

[Groupie123]

Shit happens. They might have been diagnosed with Cancer or had a miscarriage or just don't plain fancy it any more. This is why it's important only to invite people who care about you to wedding, family or not.

Is there anyone else who you think might want to go instead? Parents friends etc?

[Foxysoxy01]

Well they might have but they certainly didn't say that to us as the reason!

It's too late to invite anyone else really and the friends I would have loved to invite have made other plans.

[Jamhandprints]

Unfortunately this always happens with weddings.It's top priority for you but your guests have other things going on in their lives too. At least they told you instead of just not turning up. It's annoying but not something to get worked up about. Isnt there anyone else who could make it at the last minute?