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To want to launch myself across the office and knock her out?

72 replies

BigSandyBalls2015 · 20/07/2017 13:11

I'm raging 😡

A colleague died recently (he was late 40s with 3 teenagers) and a couple of people from the office went to the funeral.

One of them is just loudly telling the person next to her (very large open plan office) how the funeral went. Fair enough but I'm gob smacked at what she has said:

Wife wasn't what she expected, plainer, larger, dumpy. Quite cold and didn't really greet people properly

Sons have inherited dads receding hair, girl quite pretty ish

Odd choice of music, wouldn't have chose. It herself.

Food crap at wake, cheap

FFS I always thought she was a piece of work but this is a whole new level 😡😡

OP posts:
Finola1step · 20/07/2017 13:12

Who in their right mind judges a funeral?

Gotanewusernamenow · 20/07/2017 13:13

Awe what a terrible person speaking like that.

Notreallyarsed · 20/07/2017 13:13

YWNBU at all. What an absolute cunt.

Floggingmolly · 20/07/2017 13:15

What a graceless bitch Shock

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 20/07/2017 13:15

Can't you just tell her very loudly to have some fucking respect.

Oldraver · 20/07/2017 13:16

Slap her one from me.

My Mum had to listen to some twat at my DH's funeral casting aspersions on us and trying to reckon up how much I would now be worth

SillyLittleBiscuit · 20/07/2017 13:16

Ugh, that's horrible. Tell her to keep quiet.

ToTheCrystalDome · 20/07/2017 13:17

And shame on the grieving widow for not greeting your colleague properly! Hmm

MrsExpo · 20/07/2017 13:18

Go across, restrain yourself from hitting her (might be difficult) and tell her to her face how you feel. Unless she's your boss, you'll feel so much better and maybe make her re-think her attitude. What a madam. YANBU at all, and maybe you're not the only one who feels how you do. I'd be furious too.

NoCapes · 20/07/2017 13:18

Eurgh vile woman
Tell her very loudly to shut her pie hole

Abra1d · 20/07/2017 13:18

Not sure many would go to your colleague's funeral.

Vonklump · 20/07/2017 13:20

There must be a suitably scathing put down.
"Funny, I thought you'd gone to pay your respect to X, not to judge his family."

HappyLabrador · 20/07/2017 13:23

Can't you just tell her very loudly to have some fucking respect

I second that. She sounds like a totally insensitive bitch!

NeilTheSloth · 20/07/2017 13:23

Quite cold and didn't really greet people properly

Words fail me. Unbelievable to talk like that about a recently widowed woman. And the comments on the teenagers? What a nasty piece of work indeed. I'm not surprised you want to give her a piece of your mind!

TheMerryWidow1 · 20/07/2017 13:25

of course she's cold she's probably still in shock having lost her husband, poor woman! Sorry I'd have to say something to your colleague that's awful.

SapphireStrange · 20/07/2017 13:28

Christ almighty.

Say in a loud but calm voice 'Please don't talk about X [colleague's] funeral like that in the office; have some respect.'

And tell HR.

Serialweightwatcher · 20/07/2017 13:29

She's obviously a silly bitch who likes a gossip and doesn't consider the drivel coming out of her mouth - I'm sure whoever is listening to her is thinking what you are and the rest of the place. Don't drive yourself potty - world full of arseholes unfortunately

FruBayerischOla · 20/07/2017 13:31

"didn't greet people properly"?

What a piece of work Shock. I suspect I 'didn't greet people properly' before my Mum's funeral having followed the hearse from my home to the crematoriam and then had to follow Mum's coffin into the chapel. I was 'elsewhere' in my head and have no idea what I did, or didn't, say to people beforehand.

Please give your colleague a piece of your mind.

PickAChew · 20/07/2017 13:32

Ugh.

I saw your thread title and was going to ask you to take out DH's line manager on the way, but I shall allow you to unleash the full force of your fury on this unpleasant piece of work.

funkynoodle · 20/07/2017 13:33

My blood would boil. I don't think you should show yourself up in work so remain calm but, I would say, ' I don't think that's an appropriate conversation to have especially in work'. I would also tell HR.

bassetmum · 20/07/2017 13:35

My mum had to tell my dads colleagues to stop talking about work at his funeral. How dare anybody judge!! I would say something to her politely of course

TheDevilMadeMeDoIt · 20/07/2017 13:36

She probably only went to the funeral to have a nose around. I doubt paying respects played any part in it.

I'd have to say something to her if I were you.

NellieFiveBellies · 20/07/2017 13:38

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user1498911589 · 20/07/2017 13:39

She evidently only went to the funeral to be nosy and so she could gossip. Give her a piece of your mind, she's a nasty, insensitive individual who deserves a good slap.

ZippyCameBack · 20/07/2017 13:41

I've had (usually older) relatives try to involve me in really bitchy conversations about funerals- was the widow upset enough, was the food good enough, was there enough drink, that sort of bollocks.
I've always invented some urgent thing I have to go and do, but I do wish I'd had the courage to speak up about it.