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Beach etiquette...?

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AtHomeDadGlos · 19/07/2017 19:23

Right. At the beach the other day, lovely weather. Quite full and filling up but lots of spare room.

Someone comes and pitches their wind break and two fuck off huge umbrellas two feet in front of us, ruinning our view.

Even worse, they pitched it around some of our stuff - we had to ask them to pass it to us.

This isn't on right? Thankfully we were leaving within the hour as our daughter needed a nap, so we did the British thing and didn't say anything.

Beach etiquette...?
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GinasGirl · 20/07/2017 15:44

We used to live by a lovely beach, one day we all walked down to a quiet spot and sat to watch the DC play.
A couple then came along and sat 5 feet away and started to drink and snog, it got a bit much when the man started the slurping of his gf's neck - we called it a day and left.
So annoying as the beach was really quiet that day. Surely they could have done with some privacy?!!

Livebeingamummy · 20/07/2017 16:24

That would drive me insane! Equally someone that sits alongside you and your little ones enjoying the beach and starts smoking. Drives me nuts!

Oldraver · 20/07/2017 16:25

When they coralled your gear, wasn't you tempted to plonk yourself down on their chairs ?

Disclaimer...this is one of these things that sounds right in my head and written online..I would not have the nerve

Oldraver · 20/07/2017 16:27

Allesandro..yes me yesterday.Far end of a very empty Morrisons car park, rows of spaces and when I came back someone was right next to me. I've had this a lot recently and my mind boggles as to why

leighdinglady · 20/07/2017 16:37

I would have moved forward to be right in front of them Grin

JumpingJellybeanz · 20/07/2017 16:49

We got told off on the beach the other day. Apparently 4 year olds digging moats around their castles are anti-social and shouldn't be allowed on the beach.

LadyFlumpalot · 20/07/2017 16:53

Was on the beach last weekend, fairly narrow beach so quite crowded. A family pitched up a little to the side and in front of us which was fine. They then started to use our windbreak as a goal in their game of football Angry

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friendlysnakehere · 20/07/2017 17:00

BananaThePoet have you interrogated him as to why? I would love to know why people do this, I am an extreme parking weirdo and will park far away from anyone else.

starfishmummy · 20/07/2017 17:13

A few years ago now a family started setting up near us - windbreaks, chairs, table etc. They were a little down the beach from us and the tide was still on the way in....dh and I were nice and told them. So they moved and set up....out came their picnic stove and a silver coffee pot!! We probably wouldnt have told them if we had seen that!!

peterkin · 20/07/2017 17:18

I have never understood why people do this.

However, I remember being out with FIL last summer and he chose a spot right next to the only other family in the park to spread out the picnic blanket Confused

I truly have no idea why but I remember their faces, a cross between Hmm and Confused. FIL was oblivious.

starfishmummy · 20/07/2017 17:23

oldraver my ds probably would have done!! Blush
We often have to rescue people from him (he has sn and no "filter"). Luckily where we go is very family oriented with people who return year after year (like us) and everyone is lovely.

5foot5 · 20/07/2017 17:23

Well I will admit to being a bit territorial on a beach. No wind break but we have a beach tent and a rug and various other paraphernalia to mark out "our" area. However we would never set up in front of, or even close to, anyone else. That is just rude.

I am a bit gobsmacked at the people who actively seem to seek out the only people on the beach and sit next to them. We would do the exact opposite!

coddiwomple · 20/07/2017 17:50

because this is an anonymous forum, I would love to see one of the "over-sociable" parties to explain their reasoning? Already got the "you must have the best place so give it back", but otherwise is it just to piss off other people?
Genuinely would love to know.

LottieDoubtie · 20/07/2017 18:05

I suspect that the reason we never hear from people who do this on threads like this is that it's entirely unconscious. People don't realise they are doing it, to them it's just a space like any other. Subconsciously it's tapping into their need to be in a pack, but consciously they are just focussed on whatever it is they are doing.

MothertotheLordsofmisrule · 20/07/2017 18:24

I get this in supermarkets - I stop by the most unlikely item in the furthest corner of the shop (organic lark noses in brine or some such) that no-one is going to need to buy in the couple of seconds it takes me to check my list.

I can guarantee someone will stop, shove past my trolley and stare at the shelf before buggering off empty handed!

pigsDOfly · 20/07/2017 18:52

So it was you blocking the bloody organic lark noses with your trolley was it Mother? There's always one.

MadamePomfrey · 20/07/2017 18:57

Their faces look well shifty Wink did they not say anything when you asked for your stuff back?

ForalltheSaints · 20/07/2017 19:03

Tell them there is some buried dog poo where they have set up their windbreak and they will move very quickly!

TheNaze73 · 20/07/2017 19:03

What a bunch of cocks

lilmidge · 20/07/2017 19:07

I was in Tenerife a few years ago with my mum and sis, we were in the middle of a deserted beach and I decided to take a nap. Woke up about an hour later to some blokes hairy arse literally a metre away from my face Angry I find people very odd when they like to get really close to others on a massive beach. In some places you can't get away with it but most of the time there's no excuse to get so close grrrrr. I also hate it when people breath down my neck in ques, it doesn't get you any closer GET OUT OF MY SPACE.

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Pastamancer · 20/07/2017 19:22

While we are talking about beaches, can I just remind people to make sure you know how to recognise rip tides and obey any flags on beaches? This time of year so many people come down on holiday and need rescuing as they underestimate how dangerous the sea is.

BlueStockingUK · 20/07/2017 19:26

We were at the beach with my son and niece a few years back, when a man interrupted their fun and asked them to be quiet as he was trying to sleep...I'm afraid I wasn't very British at that time...
and I wouldn't be 'British' any other time if someone again asked for quiet on a public beach. pfft