Asshole

[MummyIsAFreeElf]

So I have a teething exclusively breastfed baby, a toddler with tonsillitis and a bored six year old. I have had a day from hell as I've been feeding or tending to babies. Have yet to make myself something to eat or have so much as a cup of tea. Obviously haven't had a chance to do any tidying up in the house. OH comes home from work. Sees me stressed out and struggling. Decided rather than helping me, storms back out of the house because if he "stays in the house I'll end up cleaning up". AIBU to think that he's been a complete arsehole and if he sees me in such a state the normal thing would be to help out instead of cracking up and making me feel even worse than I already do. Obviously I don't want to sit about and not get anything done all day but a teething baby and a sick baby aren't going to look after themselves so I can hang up the wash that was put on this morning! Stressed out and don't know what to do. At the end of my tether and could just cry out of frustration.

Op, most of us have arguments with our spouses from time to time. This goes way beyond that. My dh would never treat me like this, and likewise I wouldn't either. Supporting each other is one of the major elements of relationships. Ltb unless there's a very good reason he walked out.

What positive does he contribute to your life?

I have one baby and two secondary school aged DC, I'm not expected to have a clean house or dinner on the table. Some days baby has not slept properly and neither have I as baby is ebf, I'll message DP on his way home from work and ask him to sort out dinner for all of us (older dc aren't his). And he'll do it.
He'll also make sure I have food for the following day and don't need to cook because I'm breastfeeding his baby and I need to eat to ensure I have milk.

You're OH is an utter dick.

Pack his bags and send him on his way. If he cries let him. If he cries MH tell him to go to the GP, you can't really do anything and for your health and your DC, you need to be able to get on with your life without worrying about him adding to your workload.

Tell him to fuck off.

Would there be much point in legal advice? We aren't married and I am the primary care giver. The one night a month that I take off out with my friends isn't more than a hired babysitter would do and I put the kids to bed before I go out.

He's come back and apologised but as I said to him words don't mean anything. I've told him we will be talking about it after the kids go to bed as I'm not for discussing anything right now. He had gone to pick up pizza so I didn't have to cook but it could easily have been phoned and he could have helped more with the kids

I'll let you know how it goes after bed time but it could be late depending on the little nursling x

OP I felt knackered today looking after a healthy 5 and 1 year old(not BF).You have 3 of em,one poorly and one EBF and one old enough to be bored...well done just for surviving the day!

Is the house in both your names?

So really you have 4 children.
Tell him to fucking man up and help out or pack up and get out.
Sorry op but he is a selfish twunt

OP that's horrendous, I'm so sorry. He needs to get with the programme, and fast.

Queenarse this bit of your post made me smile, I loved it "the sooner we get it done (i.e. Housework) the sooner we can sit down together and watch shite telly with a drink"

As a sahm your job is looking after the children while OH works. Once he comes home its 50/50. If you get any time to cook or clean the house during the day then that is an added bonus.

He is a prick.

I have a 10yo who helps out at home more than your OH. And actually says: Mummy, you must be so tired, let me help you! (I also have a 2yo and I'm a single parent)

LTB!