What would you do? Re this job. Don't know whether to tell oh to drop out or not

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So dh has been asked to run a workshop for a week, but it's so poorly planned. I didn't quite realise how involved he would be as the pay is more for an assistant, rather than the actual teacher, and the person who set it up and advertised it is a colleague at the school they work at. But it's honestly just so poorly planned, which dh didn't know until he got his brief this week. His colleague isn't budging on his grandiose ideas, no matter how much dh is trying to explain to him it's just not going to work like this.

It'll be a lot of money to lose (£800 for 30 hours work) but my concern is having his name attached to this. He's so stressed because he's getting nowhere, and even offered to plan it himself but his colleague is so bloody minded about his 'project', yet he's only going to be there for 1 day! Should I ask dh to drop out (and trust me he wants too, I just think he's worried about letting everyone down) or just support him and gently guide him with it?

I think you should probably leave a grown, professional adult to make their own decisions about their work.

I think he needs to give an ultimatum - point out what could work and won't won't work and state that if x doesn't happen, he won't be involved.

Or if easier, he could just withdraw.

toosexy he's worried about letting me down and not bringing that money back. It would be very useful. He's been telling me about it because I think he wants me to tell him to drop out. A grown up professional yes, also quite an anxious person.

Colleague is only going to be there for 1 day.

DH should plan it himself and deliver his plan once the colleague leaves if colleague hasn't done appropriate planning.