AIBU?
Can anyone help I need a phrase to to say as I'm being treated like shit in my house
Wishforsnow · 19/07/2017 02:33
Thank you for anyone reading. I have the most Horric house guests. It's my brother and all his family and they speak polish and ignore me. I'm probably going to ask them to leave tomorrow but it would be so wonderful if someone could let me know how to say in polish ' stop talking about me when I'm in the room' I'm not parainoid I have the house guests fro hell!
Italiangreyhound · 19/07/2017 02:36
I am not sure you would be able to convince them to stop talking about you with a phrase, but you could try Google translate.
Better to call an end to the visit if you are feeling treated badly or better still talk to your brother and ask him to persuade the group to change their habits of leave. Good luck.
Wishforsnow · 19/07/2017 02:44
Yes, will probably ask them to leave. Never expected a situation like this. I know it is petty but I would just love one little sentence maybe to make them think oh does she know stuff we have said. I've been a dogsbody and walked over like I never thought I would ever do 
Wishforsnow · 19/07/2017 03:07
Aqua yes that is perfect! However, I just got blank looks with that with some. Really need to say something in polish before I end up kicking my brother and his extended family out.
Hoping with all hopes it may just shock them that I may know something
DixieFlatline · 19/07/2017 03:12
There is no way you are going to be able to pronounce anything you find to say well enough that the reaction will be good. It'll just be more like 'Uh... what did she say? It sounded a bit like X Y... Z? Ah I guess she's trying to say X Z Y? Huh.' No impact.
Aquamarine1029 · 19/07/2017 03:24
You can use Google translate and you can listen to whatever you type in in any language you choose. translate.google.com/m/translate
Diligent googling of the phrase it turns up, to check for authenticity, can go a long way though.BoysofMelody · 19/07/2017 06:33
I assume you and your brother are native English speakers and he has children with a Polish woman and now lives in Poland, so his wife and children are native Polish speakers who converse with their children in Polish?
If that's the case, YABU, they are just talking to their children and each other in their usual language.
Trollspoopglitter · 19/07/2017 08:03
To be fair, my mother tongue isn't English. My husband and children don't speak it.
When we are visiting my parents, my parents and I make huge efforts to speak only English with each other at all times, so others don't feel uncomfortable.
It is incredibly, incredibly exhausting and we often fail daily. We slip into chatting in our native language when making throwaway comments like "where's the milk, mom" without even realising we've switched languages.
I will be told and will say to them "English, please" at least 50 times a day.
The kids are picking up and learning the language but my husband will never crack (it's not an easy one).
So I can sympathise with them slipping into Polish without even realising it. You just need to sound like a parrott and keep at them ENGLISH PLEASE ENGLISH PLEASE ENGLISH PLEASE
OhtoblazeswithElvira · 19/07/2017 08:19
This is tricky, isn't it? Are the rest of the family able to speak English to the same standard as Polish? If they're not then it would be unreasonable to ask them to switch languages (imagine talking to your child in a language neither of you are fluent in). But the OP is not being treated right it seems... wish she would come back to tell us more...
Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 19/07/2017 08:49
OP is saying extended family
That doesn't usually mean children
Could it be older siblings and parents
Doesn't matter, sounds like the issue is what they are saying, not how they are saying it
Sister in law and her children sometimes (rarely to be completely fair) talk in sign language, sharing jokes. I find it very excluding (they are not deaf)
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