Single parent joy

[chitofftheshovel]

I am upset, once more, that my children's dad forgot another school event. He's never been to a sports day, parents evening, school disco, nativity play etc.

DS texted him last week to specifically ask him to come to his award ceremony, first year of high school so a pretty big deal. And dad was a no show. Could see DS looking for his dad, could feel how let down he felt.

Bit late to text their dad now isn't it?

I think if he's never been and your son is now in high school then its unlikely he ever will. Crap and enraging though it is I think you just have to work on managing your DS'S expectations 😕 and for you

You really really shouldnt say anything but I dont think I could restrain myself from a 'thank you for showing your son the support that meant so much to him' text.

dont do that though.

your son will give up on him one day.

Sorry I feel your pain. There's not much you can do other than explain to ds how proud you are of him and explain to his dad how disappointed his son was. My dc dad turns up when he has 'time' too. It's a lonely existence, especially when you see the other enthusiastic dads

So very sad when there are so many dads out there that would love to have the chance to be part of their children's lives. Many single mums exclude their children's fathers from having contact despite all the heartbreak it brings. However, you are a good mum and obviously encourage the relationship between your ds and his dad. What a pity his dad lets him down like this. I do feel your heartbreak too seeing your ds upset. I will say this though. Your ds will know as he grows older that you always did the right thing by him and that will mean a lot even though his father is too stupid to see what he is throwing away.

Ach thanks guys. I shan't say anything, he will reap what he has sowed. Eventually.

He will reap what he sows chit. My 20 yo DS has had no contact at all with his dad since he was 15 when he finally figured out what a twat he was. It's heartbreaking though and I'm so sorry your DS has to go through it too

I don't think many single mums do exclude the dads. That's just an excuse the deadbeats often pedal. If they gave a toss they would go to court and get their contact.

I'm sorry OP. Your dc will soon see him for what he is. Its his loss.