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Should I make a fuss with school given there are 3 days left

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Racmactac · 18/07/2017 21:10

Ds11 in year 6 has had issues in past with other boys calling him 'paki' telling him to go home to where he came from.
School had a word and it seemed to blow over.
But one of his friends has been calling him Muslim again today.
He doesn't want me to say anything to school and doesn't want me to say anything to the parents.
Do I say anything or leave it given they have nearly finished school.

If it makes any difference ds is white (but tanned !)

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Rodeobunny · 18/07/2017 22:36

Are they all going to the same senior school? If so, I think you should report to both schools. I think you should explain to DS that you understand his position but need to report this unacceptable harassment and bullying, because that's what it is. If this was happening in the workplace, it wouldn't matter that DS is white, because he would be protected against 'discrimination by perception', under the Equality Act 2010.
I hope all goes well.

Storminateapot · 18/07/2017 22:42

Well I've raised a bit of a moan about something very unfair & unkind that happened to my (anxiety-suffering) 6th former last week. I didn't want it dwelled on over the holidays and the lovely teacher I raised it with agreed things are best nipped in the bud and dealt with while they are molehills rather than mountains. In our case it's been sorted and we can begin the holidays feeling a good start to next year is coming rather than worrying.

No need to go in guns blazing, be polite and calm but just explain you don't want this hanging in the air for 6 weeks and becoming a source of stress about going back in September.

Storminateapot · 18/07/2017 22:44

I missed that they are changing schools. I'd still raise it.

HurtleTheTurtle · 18/07/2017 22:45

Is your son Muslim or are they calling him a Muslim solely because he has a tan?

Grilledaubergines · 18/07/2017 22:52

Definitely needs to be dealt with asap. Look, he's 11. He doesn't know what's best for him and you do.

But don't contact OFSTED as suggested.

jamdonut · 18/07/2017 22:55

That absolutely should be reported. Totally unacceptable .

Racmactac · 19/07/2017 08:46

Thanks everyone. To answer question no we are not Muslim. He is just very lucky to have olive skin and be tanned!

Have spoken to head/teacher and they were horrified. Also ds told me they went on a trip the other day and there was a school there and some kids wearing turbans and some of boys in his class were laughing about it Sad

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Notevilstepmother · 19/07/2017 09:11

You did the right thing.

mohuzivajehi · 19/07/2017 09:14

Absolutely. It's irrelevant that your son is white. The issue is that these boys think that treating someone differently due to skin colour is acceptable. I am glad you have reported it.

highinthesky · 19/07/2017 11:45

He is just very lucky to have olive skin and be tanned!

Just remember, there's no such thing as a safe tan. 20 mins forearm exposure to sunlight a day should be sufficient for his Vit D needs.

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