DS2 has high functioning Autism I never completed the formal diagnosis process with him as he manages fine, has a group of friends who are also on the spectrum and he seeks to understand himself quite well.
He was 13 by the time he started the assessment. He wasn't bothered about getting a formal diagnosis, I have worked with kids with ASD and am fairly sure that's what he would have been diagnosed with - obvs am not an expert.
Split with his dad before he was born but always stayed friends, he has been very involved in his life. We were very friendly but over the years as DS has got older it's distanced itself naturally - he married and so did I and divorced and am now marrying again DS dad and I always thought that his dad (DS grandad) also on the spectrum.
I always suspected DS dad too. He struggles with depression and is very moody, lashes out and sometimes really inappropriate in social situations.
Tonight he turns up out of the blue (highly irregular) and asks me if I have ever thought he has ASD. I said no as DS was hanging around. He then says he's struggling within his life, marriage, relationships etc and was on the verge of tears and says he has tested himself online and is thinking about being assessed. I talked with him a bit about what he thought would he the benefits of it but it was all a bit awkward as DS was here (his dad was dropping something off for him but he lives 40 mins away).
Feel really bad now as not sure what he wanted me to see/do - anyone got any ideas? Am a bit worried about him.