Long story will try to keep it short.
Met friend through school as kids became best friends.
We got on really well and had alot in common. We were both at that point off work long term with mental health problems and really seemed to click in how we saw things.
Just for context incase its important i have 3dc two older and one younger who is asd.dh is also asd.
Back ground and very personal so wont go into much detail but i have no family in my life due to abuse both sexual and mental, this included loosing both parents and a sibling. Was really hard to find it in me to move past fear and walk away losing a job and family etc.
Ive always been there for friend who jas needed alot of support but it has begun to seem that all i ever do is support her. She seems happy when shes unhappy if you see what i mean.
You know as soon as one drama is solved she will find another and thats how its been for some time now.
Yes shes listened to me on some occasions when im not coping with two asd people at home or when ive had some concerns over flashbacks etc but tbh it normally if i think about it turns into how bad her life is so i never really get that support.
She will moan about everyone she meets, everything that happens, fat shames her fiancee who she wont admit to anyone shes engaged to etc. Fat shames me and my hubby. Yeah i know im weak and should habe fought back but cant.
Lately She will message non stop sometimes even at 1am despite telling me she wants time alone but messages me anyway as someone has annoyed her.
If she doesnt get the poor you response shes looking for she ignores any more attempts to talk or see her ( like a punishment) then ofcourse when she needs something again shes back to messaging.
I've recently started counselling for the abuse and will be deciding on court action or not. Low and behold friend is nowjere to be seen. She has a drama and wants me to feel sorry for her which i just dont have tje for anymore. Even seeing her name come up on my phone is tiring.
I wanted to try to see the good side and hope it was all depression and she couldnt help it but im a mess. Im in agony on new meds myself which mean i cant even get out and about, counselling and finally facing it has hit really hard. Hubby is angry with her and did make clear to her fiancee ( they are friends) how bad things were for me at the moment but nothing at all. Just some texts earlier to say how hideous her life was etc.
I feel so bloody alone coping with it all and just wanted a little back from a friend. Should i be supporting her at the moment ? AiBU ?
Please be gentle. Long time lurker first time poster.